I am of the opinion that most of these ills can trace their roots down to being brought up in broken homes. A child suffers severe mental damage if brought up by divorced parents.
And this is only my opinion.
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"I am of the opinion that most of these ills can trace their roots down to being brought up in broken homes. A child suffers severe mental damage if brought up by divorced parents."
I agree.
I don't want to go into details, but as a result of a difficult childhood I've struggled with depression all my life. I used to cut my arms with razor blades when I was 16 years old--this was over 25 years ago and I never knew anyone else who did this.
"Cutting" is a sign that something wrong. Mentally healthy people do not inflict injury on themselves.
I think there is a whole generation of psychologically damaged kids that is the direct result of self-absorbed parents who think their own happiness is more important than their children's.
Look at the lyrics of rap music--fatherless homes is a constant theme. Look at Nirvana and Pearl Jam lyrics.
It's very sad.
Yes. That and if the maternal bond was broken in infancy--and the child was "institutionalized" because of a single or working mother.
I don't think that it's always "severe mental damage" but I can personally attest that it definitely messes you up. The real test is whether or not staying together "for the kids" causes even worse trauma (given abusive situations, for example).
But I don't think any child comes through their parent's divorce unscathed, even if we turn out okay in the end. It's a good thing that some states mandate counseling for the kids and the parents when a divorce is taking place...wish that that had been the case when my parents split up.
I think you’re right on, with that one. Kids are stuck growing up faster, their development is delayed, and then they have to cope with a new person coming into the life of their parents and then ending up with their primary parent’s attention being diverted.