I read the link that led to court documents a month or so ago so maybe I've gotten the name wrong. It was her best friend and the name started with "J". She stated under oath that Terri told her she'd never want to live with tubes, etc.
http://www.zimp.org/stuff/04%20-%20JACKIERHODESTESTIMONY.htm
http://www.coloradorighttolife.org/news_updates/terri20050215.htm
http://www.orlandosentinel.com/news/orl-locmiket25022505feb25,1,4110236.column?ctrack=1&cset=true
I think you are referring to the testimony of MICHAEL's SISTER IN LAW. She is the one who said that. Two people who were TERRI's friends, who were there watching the same TV show that night with Terri and Michael, his brother, his brother's wife, said the exact opposite.