you are right only God can erase the guilt and pain you feel. Children always feel like they are at fault. Now I can spot a pervert a mile away and I am right 99% of the time. I also watched my children and now my grandchildren sometimes too close i think. very rarely were my children allowed to spend the night at other people's home.
>>>>you are right only God can erase the guilt and pain you feel. Children always feel like they are at fault. Now I can spot a pervert a mile away and I am right 99% of the time. I also watched my children and now my grandchildren sometimes too close i think. very rarely were my children allowed to spend the night at other people's home.<<<<
I can spot them too. I am single so I haven't had any children but I have nieces who I am fiercely protective of and if I ever caught anyone abusing my seven year old niece (the other one's married) I would beat the ever loving cr@p out of them.
on the flip side, your children pick up on your neurosis. If you want your children to grow up to be afraid of their own shadow, keep doing what you're doing.