The shame is parents who don't seem to know how to be parents.
I took my Mother to an event that was sponsored by the garden club, and a little girl (no more than 8) talked to her father like he was her slave and he just stood there looking like a whipped dog. I will add that this father and daughter were non-black and quite upper class.
Black children do tend to suffer more from parental abdication because of the lack of fathers and, as someone mentioned earlier, being strapped with a name that's hard to pronounce and that invites laughter and criticism.
It's stereotypical.
Some of the politest children I've met have been black.
I've also been "run over" several times by out of control black youth, in groups out in public places.
First, could I pleeeeease have two minutes in a private room with this child. Bet she wouldn't "act out" for me again.
As for the mother-it is obvious that she has created a monster that even she can't stand to be around. "I ain't gonna come git her till after 3:00", namely, until I HAVE to come get her at the regular dismissal time.
As to the transfer, it isn't always so easy to send a child to another school. (I pity the school that she would be tranferred to (pushed off on). Maybe mother was demanding a tranfer to a school that was full, or that didn't meet the needs of the child (like an advanced pilot school). Wouldn't surprise me at all if mother was taking advantage of the situation and trying to get her in a school that was the most sought after in the district (or something like that).
VERY FRUSTRATING SITUATION! I feel bad for any "well behaved" students who are actually in school to learn.
The situation has been building for years and has reached the point where no one is allowed to be in charge.