The 2000 show you mentioned sounds like what happened - he had a young woman in a short dress on stage that kept refilling his glass, and his wife finally came on stage and took the bottle. It wasn't funny, it wasn't entertaining. It wasn't in Marin, unless he did the same thing there. The show I attended was, I think, Hayward, or Fremont. I don't remember exactly. I used to like him up until then, but after that, I listened to his show less and less, and finally quit altogether 2-3 years ago.
The second show, "Name 'Em and Shame 'Em" was at the Marin Civic Center in 2000. In that show, he had an assistant who kept refilling his glass until his wife came out and took the bottle away.
The third show, "Savage Uncensored" was at the Chronicle Pavillion, where he again drank too much and couldn't finish the show (just like with the second one).
-PJ