Life in the fantasy world is free of the risk of rejection that has to be faced in the real world. In fanatasy world you're always the king, every whim is fulfilled ...
In the real world it's having a decent relationship with your wife/gf/S.O is hard, and sometimes painful, work.
Having spent years in fantasy world before doing the hard, painful work intimate relationship requires, I'll take the later.
In my porn fueled fantasy world there was never any risk of rejection. The real world, however, was the only place where the acceptance I was really after, warts and all, and coming from another human being, was possible.
I'm never going back.
I agree with your underlying premise completely. We were talking more in terms of what happens on a daily basis after a long days work and rather than getting appreciation and affection, we are greeted with utter nonsense about frivolous matters that completely saps the urge to have sex with the other person.
Most guys are really decent and want to do the right thing. However, when a pattern of rejection sets in, there is also a pattern where the guy goes to his outlet to get what little satisfaction he can.
What guy after a long day wants to hear about how he needs to spend more money on crap or hear hear about how his mother is not nice enough to his wife or about some other stupid S$%&^????
You are right in the long term, but I telling you the reality of what usually goes on.