[wideawake]

If the husband is now an ex-husband because he committed infidelity, or was physically violent toward his wife, or was a drug addict he should be on the hook no matter what.

But I have no patience for women who leave their husbands because of constant bickering, or "emotional abuse", or their own infidelity or because they're "in a rut" and "have to be me."

These things really have to be judged on a case-by-case basis.

Botom line: far too many Americans end marriages because they are selfish.

[Half Vast Conspiracy]

Bottom line: far too many Americans end marriages because they are selfish.

Agreed. And, when they do this, they give up the convenience of being able to decide (together) that one should stay home with the kids.

[Restorer]

I believe about 2/3 of divorces are initiated by the wife.

[k2blader]

Can't disagree with a thing you've posted, wideawake, and I strongly agree with your last sentence. Perhaps my first post was in haste.

I admit I'm generally not sympathetic when it comes to divorce. In most cases, it strikes me as being the obvious consequence of uncommitted grown people indulging their extreme selfishness. The greatest tragedy is that their children will pay the price.

The irony of this case is apparent (no pun intended). For once a mom makes the right decision to stay home with her children, yet her divorce impedes it.

[Mrs. P]

But I have no patience for women who leave their husbands because of constant bickering, or "emotional abuse", or their own infidelity or because they're "in a rut" and "have to be me."

You mean, like when a sister sees the wife actually be physically and verbally abused and tries to get the woman to leave her husband, but is told to butt out and then for the next 20 years is told by the wife that everything is fine, not to worry, he's different now and life is good and we are having a great time and they have two kids, but suddenly decides after the 21st anniversary that the guy is a jerk and a moron and abusive and she can't let her kids be raised by such an terrible person and besides she's never getting laid anymore, so leaves and gets her other sister to foot the bill for the divorce and moving her and her two kids back home and has everyone feeling sorry for her and giving her money, and helping her relocate to her home state, and then VOILA - she has a man moved in with her (and her two sons) that she met online in a chat room and is 15 years older than her? You mean like THAT kind of woman? I don't have patience with them, either.

Bottom line: far too many Americans end marriages because they are selfish.

Exactly.

[tiredoflaundry]

Botom line: far too many Americans end marriages because they are selfish.

Bingo