I figure this has all been said before, but her son volunteered to join the Army. He knew the risks, so did his mom. So why didn't she tell him no or try to talk him out of it? You never know what hell hole you will be sent to - men died in Somalia, we've been (and I guess still are) in Kosovo, there have been military actions over the years in unforeseen circumstances - Grenada, Panama, etc.
I wonder if she has even spoken to any of the people who served with her son - that might bring her comfort. It sounds trite and stupid, but she needs to go to grief counseling. From what I'm hearing and seeing, ol' Cindy there sounds like she's needing some serious help.
DarkSyde (DS): Your son, Army Spc. Casey Sheehan, was deployed to Iraq in the spring of 2004. When and why did Casey join the military? What did you think about his decision?
Cindy Sheehan (CS): Casey joined the Army in May of 2000. I was devastated. He was 21, he didn't discuss it with us.
DS: Devastated? Why?
CS: Because he would be leaving home ... we are not a military family and we really didn't understand his enlistment.
http://brentrasmussen.com/log/node/117
So he joined AND re-upped without consulting her.
**And one of her relatives called a CA talk show and said she was a control freak and that he joined to get away from her.