I finally got to see the HBO documentary that a daughter did about her father dying of AIDS (I think his name was Jeff Betancourt). His daughter was trying several times to ask him when he realized he was gay, was it before he married her mom (yes), how could you get married (didn't see a problem with it), did you cheat on her (yes, with men in the village)...he was dying and still didn't see what he did and the great risks he put them in. It was crazy. I have to believe he just said that, he was ashamed, he was already paying the price but I don't think so. It was really twisted.
like the tagline... my favorite bumper sticker:
I not stupid, I'm just big-boned