Posted on 08/30/2005 10:14:07 PM PDT by tbird5
Love can be unconditional, and if you're as lucky as I to have the right wife (took two tries), you want to do it. Simple as that.
33 years with the finest girl Texas had to offer. Nope, I'm not next.
I agree. I am not one. I married a tough guy in a leather jacket the first time. I was sheltered and only 18. He was abusive. At 20, I packed up my one year old daughter and hitched a ride and got out of there. I paid my way through college and was single for years. I met my husband at a bar on Halloween; it was love at first sight. We married six months later. He is a great guy and I am very fortunate. We have been married for 17 years.
Thanks for the details. Nice. I'm happy for you.
Congrats on doing something that many others do, but seldom get kudos for having done. You did it on your own. Outstanding...
I appreciate that. LOL
And so does my wallet. You were self-sufficient, perhaps the most important thing a parent can instill in their child.
You have no way of knowing that; you can't know what she was like before the divorce. I don't know if this has ever happened to you--if you've ever been abandoned by a spouse--but most people go through a period of depression, anger, and bitterness after a divorce they didn't want. I've met both men and women who were filled with fury after such an event--it's quite normal. Nobody comes through it all sweetness-and-light. I hope she can get over it.
She created her own mess. She deserves no slack. The only thing she deserves, from the looks of it, is to be alone for the rest of her life so she doesn't inflict herself on anyone else.
How compassionate you are.
"How compassionate you are."
Our life is what our thoughts make it.
She is choosing to be this way. She is reaping what she sowed.
And she is blaming other people for problems she caused.
She is a recipe for disaster. The worst thing that could happen is that she spreads her misery to someone else. She needs to learn to take responsibility for her own situation FIRST.
It takes time to get over agony like this. It's hard enough to have a spouse leave one for somebody else, to have finances ruined and a beloved child gone. Harder still is the acknowledgement that one is going to be alone for the rest of one's life, so there can be no comfort for the losses. This is a very sad thing, very hard to accept. As I said, even if she is a true angel the chances are good she'll never be able to remarry. So right now she's giving vent to her feelings in print, which is always a temptation for writers. If she has a really, really good therapist (and they're out there), she might get over it and learn to accept being alone. If she finds faith, she's much more likely to move on to a peaceful life.
I'm going to pray for her peace. Will you join me? Without condemnation or hostility?
Well, your faith in human nature (or the supernatural core of human nature, perhaps) is inspirational, but she has shown no glimmer of angelhood.
I'm one of the many men that isn't dating, let alone marrying, women like her any more. Which is why a lot of women my age are already condemned to live out their existence with two cats and a library card -- which is all the better for the children they didn't have.
The true loser in this is the child, a child that she clearly does not love, but instead values as an object with which to punish her hated ex. (No idea whether the ex's feelings towards the kid are any different, but with a mother like this, the child was born doomed). The child, I'll pray for. The mother, you can pray for. Mom probably needs it worse but I'm not that good a Christian.
d.o.l.
Criminal Number 18F
Almost 35 years here. I'm surprised this writer could get someone drunk enough to say I do.
You're wise. People of either sex who are bitter and still emotionally wracked by divorce should not be dating.
My husband and I have been married 12 years and 9 months today. Even during the down times I figured I could work things out with my best friend or try to look for some "imaginary better thing". I love my husband. I can't imagine not having him around.
Isn't that Poe's poem to his pre-teen COUSIN, who later became his WIFE at like age 14? Eeeeew!
Yep. This woman is a downer. I wouldn't even want to be her friend, let alone her spouse. Water seeks it's own level, that's for sure. :(
I don't know about the poem, I mean the facts behind the poem. Interesting! He was a pretty troubled guy, old Edger Allen.
Works either way.
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