Only those who make a fuss out of prenups before the marriage are the ones who have a ulterior motive in the whole thing , and has something to hid, because, if they didn't , they would have no problem with prenups.
That " Don't' you trust me " line is a poor excuse, and lame line to make the other party feel guilty for wanting to protect themselves and their property or wealth that was built up before they even meet.
It is the same deceitful heart condition, and motive as the same line in the Samson and Delilah story from Delilah.
The Philistines wanted to know were Samson got his strength so they can defeat Samson, so ? they conveniently sent beautiful Delilah his way because they knew Samson was weak when it came to beautiful women.
After many times trying to find out Samson's strength, Delilah got frustrated, and said to Samson ,
that, " if you TRULY LOVE ME, you would tell me were you get your strength from "
Knowing in her heart that he would want to please her, and not make her feel hurt, ( in truth, Delilah couldn't care less about Samson personally .
When ever their other person says " don't you trust me " or " don't you love me " red flags should go up in warning.
If they ( the other person ) leave or split after mentioning a prenup before getting married, then, they were the wrong one, and only wanted something else ( for selfish reasons ) out of the marriage than true love and commitment.
The party ( person ) who is wanting a prenup is basically saying,
( I am entering this marriage in good faith, wanting to make a commitment, and to love, )
However ? if by your part ( the other person ) is dishonest, deceitful, does not want to make a true commitment and for what ever reason this marriage fails ( and fails, not by my part, but, by your part )
I am taking necessary steps to protect myself, my family, and my financial future if ( you , on ( YOUR PART ) fail to live up to your commitment, or faith, or love in this marriage ).
Buy no means does a prenup necessarily mean that if you are the one who wants a prenup, that you are saying this marriage is going to fail.
You are putting the burden of the level of honesty, the level of commitment or the other person to live up their wedding vows on them to live up to, because you know in your hear that you want to make the marriage work.
To: Prophet in the wilderness
I wouldn't sign one or expect my future wife to sign one.
And yes I'd be offended. And I'm the bread winner. And she is the mother of and to my children.
And yes I don't have "alterer motives".
I just think it is wrong.
I uttered the words as a solemn oath before God "Until death do we part" and I meant it. Foolish me...
posted on 09/18/2005 6:08:14 AM PDT
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