I understand your concern about appearing as a pharisee, however, do you want your 13 year daughter hanging around, making friends and learning to accept lesbian ways? I'm sure these ladies are nice enough to be around but it's still openly sinning and rebelling against God. It's tough teaching our kids to be holy, because God is holy, in a world that is always calling them hypocrits, bigots, uninformed and self-righteous. During the formative years, I will guard them and fill them with God's rules. Hopefully, they'll always be in a Bible-based church that doesn't cave to the pressure of worldly wisdom and teach heresy in order to be "inclusive." There's a time to reach out to non-believers and a time to remove non-repentent sinners from the flock lest they lead others astray. Let's protect our Christian institutions.
If my daughter at the age of 13 makes friends with another child whose parents are lesbians, we will do all that we can to educate her about the lifestyle. How we have done that with her older brothers is to tell them that those people have bought into Satan's lies and have taken a love relationship and twisted it into something that is far from what God wanted.
We also have explained to them that these people do not know Jesus, so it would make sense that they would behave according to Satan's lies. We have also told our children (and I hope modeled for them) that the best way to reach these people is by caring about them and loving them. Yes, these people would be coming to our home for dinner. Yes, we would spend time with them without changing a bit of who we are -- we would still pray at meals and still talk about our love for Christ.
Okay, I am really about to put my foot into it. We are in the process of adopting our daughter, and the woman who we selected to be our attorney is a lesbian. We know it. She knows we know it, though she tries to hide it from us. We think she does this because she knows in dealings with us that we are born-again Christians.
She is about to do something for us that involves our daughter's biological father. We have made it clear to her that we do not want to alienate him because we hopefully wish to lead him to Christ someday. She has opened up to us, and is interested in learning more about our faith. I doubt that this would happen if we hadn't selected her to be our attorney.
Now, all of that being said, I would love to have this woman's children know my kids. We are unashamed of the gospel, and we understand it is for those who are even afar off. I am not afraid that my children are going to be homosexual if we reach out to homosexuals. Is my kid going to spend the night at her house? No. My kids didn't spend the night with my kid brother when he was living with a woman either. But we didn't turn her away, either.
Bottom line: if these women were confused about what it means to live a Christian life, and her daughter was expelled because of their relationship, shame on the school. However, if these women were being deceitful and if the kid was causing problems, then the school was right in providing a consequence for the behavior. Christians are so afraid of being contaminated, they forget to be in the world and not of it.