Right. But I think that there is a way to love people, to be concrete about your beliefs, and still care about who they are.
As for kids paying a price, well, that is difficult to say. It depends on the kid. It depends on the circumstance. I certainlt do not want my kids sacrificed on the altar of secular humanism. And yet, I do not want them growing up believing that they cannot have a friend or make a friend who is an unbeliever and a blatant one at that. It's a prayerfully made judgment call.
That is exactly my point: It depends on the kid.
I would base my judgement on the kid and not the parents.
If the kid is a disruptive mess......See ya! This school, is not for you.
In our school, three new kids did not last 4 weeks last year.
If the kid is on the right track, it does not matter if his grandfather was Adolf Hitler or if his Dad is Miss Gay San Francisco.