[MEGoody]

If the court does try to force the little girl to have a relationship with a woman who is not blood against the wishes of the bio parents, the little girl will grow to hate the lesbian.

I doubt the little girl would be 'forced' to have a relationship with her. If the woman was good to her and treated her with love, the little girl probably loves her. If she grows to 'hate' the lesbian, it would be because of the attitude of the 'biological parents.' (Same dynamics as when hetero couples split and mom talks bad about the guy the kid thought of as dad all along.)

[after dark]

This girl is still young enough to be shaped . The bio parents will have power over her opinions. Many divorced non custodial parents have had their child's mind poisoned by the custodial parents. It's not as hard as you would imagine.