[IMRight]

A person who doesn't have sex but perhaps self-identifies as a gay man, and fantasizes regularly about sex with men or teenagers is not totally innocent, especially when the person indulges himself with it, as opposed to fighting it.

Certainly.... but that's not the example I gave.

Your examples where the individual commits other actual sins are beside the point. The inclination (or "bent") toward sin is not, in itself, your sin. We are all born with a "bent" toward sin that we must struggle against. If mine happens to be gambling the food money each month and not homosexual sex - that's irrelevant. The question is whether the Holy Spirit is active in my life and guides my behavior or whether my "bent" does. A man who does NOT indulge in his "bent" is seeking the Lord's will regardless of WHAT the particular sin he's combating is.

The difference is that the Church needs must take a stand in one area over another because "the world" tries to tell us that this particular sin is not a sin at all... but rather just the way God wants you to be. To some extent it is that way with all sin... but homosexual behavior is defended far more stridently.

[Knitting A Conundrum]

You know, I WAS actually agreeing with you.