Posted on 01/17/2006 1:31:49 PM PST by WKB
Exactly,
and I've heard the same from childless couples too.
Likes draw likes.
HUGS.
He took himself--and thus your marriage--down a rocky path that cost you both--but you honored your vow. Blessings on you.
valid point..
AND...
There are people who are good, christian parents.. and their kids end up in deep trouble.
There are terrible people, whos children end up doing great things.
Only God can know this stuff.
Most of the couples who shouldn't have kids shouldn't have got married, shouldn't have got together in the first place.
Or else they simply value their sanity.
"Moral relativism has struck FR pretty deeply as of late."
Absolute Truth cuts to the heart of all real issues and has NEVER been Politically Correct.
I hear ya. There's a lot of us out there who landed in the same place less by choice than by circumstance.
I came to the realization when I was nearing the end of my fertile years and kept trying to talk to DH about it and he would just stare and go "Huh?" because he was so baked he couldn't hold up his end of the conversation.
I sat myself down and said "you want a kid to have THAT as a father?". And as soon as I said that to myself I knew that either I had to either 1) leave DH or 2) get him cleaned up and then maybe reapproach the subject.
Getting him straightened out took a LONG time. I had one foot out the door for about 7 years. But I just couldn't give up on him.
He's cleaned up now, and he's the guy I knew he could be and could see even through the fog. But now my female bits have quit.
Oh well, sometimes you get the chocolates, sometimes you get the box.
I figure I did my part for God by rehabbing DH and keeping him from wasting the rest of his life.
LQ
I have to agree. Of course, I also reject the cultural suicide embraced by much of the West.
He's right. And in another generation, when by sheer numbers due to procreation the Muslims overtake us, we will wish we would have taken the command to "be fruitful and multiply" serious. I only had two children. I believed a lie. If I were to do it over again, i would have had more. Too late now.
Next time you make your measurements, be sure that you are not told which couples have kids and which don't. It would also help if the childless older couples were randomly chosen from as a set as possible. Likewise the old couples with children used as your control should be chosen randomly from as complete a set as possible. When you've got your results, get back to us.
He'd say you didn't have enough. After all, the natural spacing between babies is about 18 months. In 10 years, you should have had 6, and been 6 months pregnant with #7. Then God would have blessed your family just like he blessed Nixzmary Brown's family, where mommy just kept popping them out one after another -- to the point where she was busy nursing her 6 month old, while her husband was murdering her 7 year old in the next room, and the 4 other children were just doing whatever little kids do when mommy's too busy with the new baby to stop daddy from murdering your sister.
> if He means for you to have a child, no amount of condoms or pills will stop it.
Failure to do the Horizontal Bop will kinda stymie His Plans, though...
I've always said "take care around your children, because one day you will have to answer to an adult."
That's what I thought. I find Deuteronomy somewhat challenging, especially in the King James.
>>"can't afford them"
> by whose budgetary definitions?
Are you on welfare? Then you can't afford children.
Thank you! Sometimes it seems like those who have children just want to feel superior to everyone who doesn't.
When I was married, there was the possibility at any time that I could go from 0 children to 2 or 3 or even 6 children I could be responsible for, and I had nightmares about it for a year. But I did what it took to be prepared for that possibility. Thankfully, it didn't happen.
Yet, the "selfish" and "immature" labels still continue to be thrown at people in my situation. Among other things I did, I had raised over $46 million just for children's charities in my career. I know, that doesn't count. Giving to those who have children just doesn't count, because they just expect it. "God said so."
They don't have "Aunt's/Uncle's Day" or "Single People's Day" or any kind of celebrations of life for childless people. We don't even get to have birthdays in my family. Do you know how it feels to be a non-entity?
I think that is the argument of gays, isn't it?
And then children leads to no sex, bills out the ass and a lot of headache from worrying about them all the time.
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