Or if the woman you're supposed to marry decides all of a sudden she feels the need to try and get back with her ex. The same ex who abandoned her when she refused to get an abortion for the pregnancy he caused, never paid a dime to her to help care for his child, then became and alcoholic. Of course, when said unstable and heartless woman forgives that, spends a grand total of 12 days with him, all while professing her continuing love for someone else (read: me) then after those 12 days, marries him, thereby stomping a mudhole in my heart, maybe, just maybe children aren't such a good idea.
Yes, I am bitter, and yes, I know I should consider myself lucky that it happened now as opposed to later, but it's just not that easy. Not when everything you've been looking for for 30 years is found in this woman, who then proceeds to do the above. My year has sucked thus far.
Been bottling this up for days now.
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My heart goes out to you... there are some really stupid and heartless people in the world.. and they should never procreate..
Hugs
Sorry for your pain. I've had two ex-wives. Finding Jesus got me through..... good luck.
She at first suggested counseling, with a Christian Counselor. I agreed and went. When I told her that I think I can work with the guy she claimed that we had conspired against her. Never mind she choose him, had the first solo session with him and it was our first meeting.
She then suggested that we seperate so she could have a little space to clear her mind. Telling her that action would be the beginning of the end, she said that it wouldn't, she would need 30-60 days and that I thought I knew everything. Stupidly, I found a place to stay. She never looked back.
After six months, I started pushing her to initiate whatever action she was going to take. I was living very frugally and still depositing my paycheck into our common account. I existed on about $50 per week, including food and shelter. She decided she was in no hurry, because this income windfall was helping her to pay the bills. She also started hiding money because her "friends" had convinced her that I was doing the same. I wasn't. She had access to all accounts, got all the mail and could monitor all transactions I had initiated in any account. But they convinced her, so she began doing it to me. BTW, these were all "Christians" who were in her support group.
We met for dinner one evening and discussed the final divy of assets. She began to waver, so she called her friend who advised that she had "made it this far so why give in. He's only manipulating you."
Let me tell you, it hurt like hell to go through it.
I was lucky. I worked with a lady who was divorced for 25 years, was a serious lady of the lord and was always friendly to me. We met for dinner one night and it went on from there. We married shortly thereafter.
Is everything perfect? No. But it is much, much better than the first one that I fought with everything I had to keep. This one thinks the world of me, wants me to lead our family and wants us to work for the common good of our family. In return, I've promised never to treat her as a doormat and to love her in return. In over three years of marriage, we've never had a serious dust up. We are fortunate.
End to a long story, sometimes there are happy endings. Yours may come to that.