How about if both parties feel called to other areas of service and can't devote the time to that and to children? It's arrogant to assume that God wants the same thing of everyone, and even more arrogant to assume that a couple is somehow deficient because they've chosen not to have children. I could just as easily say that people who have children are making up for some huge hole in their lives that they can only fill by creating needy little eating machines that will take up all of their time and force them into a purpose.
I could say that, but I won't, because I am just caring and loving enough to understand that everyone has a different focus, purpose, and mission.
Thank you! Sometimes it seems like those who have children just want to feel superior to everyone who doesn't.
When I was married, there was the possibility at any time that I could go from 0 children to 2 or 3 or even 6 children I could be responsible for, and I had nightmares about it for a year. But I did what it took to be prepared for that possibility. Thankfully, it didn't happen.
Yet, the "selfish" and "immature" labels still continue to be thrown at people in my situation. Among other things I did, I had raised over $46 million just for children's charities in my career. I know, that doesn't count. Giving to those who have children just doesn't count, because they just expect it. "God said so."
They don't have "Aunt's/Uncle's Day" or "Single People's Day" or any kind of celebrations of life for childless people. We don't even get to have birthdays in my family. Do you know how it feels to be a non-entity?
That's a good point, people could be having children because they are selfish. That is partially true in my case.
good post.........