>> Yeah, well what would the dear man have to say if I had popped out 2 or 3 kids in the middle of my husbands 10-year drug abuse crisis? Then I would've been a selfish dumba$$. <<
Well, that's the true reason for the existence of annulments. If your husband was a drug addict, he was incapable of a spiritual marriage. Hence, you would be permitted to leave him. What's the alternative? Have sex with a drug addict and risk an unplanned pregnancy?
You forgot that little part of marriage vows that promises to stick by the other "in sickness and in health". I didn't bail on him, I fought for him and with him and we got through it. He's been sober for 3 years now and things are better.
I suppose I could've walked but that doesn't say much about me as a person, or as a wife.
I got my husband back but lost the chance for kids. If I had left it would've been the reverse.
For all of you judgemental types out there - pray that's never a choice that you are faced with.
LQ