I was emotionally (and somewhat physically) abused by my family for years mainly because I did not fit in well with the family and was too honest for the other members who were bent on self-deception in many ways.
I have been married happily to Mr. Adler for 33 years. I worked very hard to be a better parent to my own kids than my parents were to me. My children are: two happy and successful daughters: one is a medical researcher with a master's degree; the other is a CPA who works for a big corporation in their corporate headquarters. Both are happily married; one has her first child and is one of the very best mothers I have ever known. They are both excellent problem solvers and decision makers and well put together young women.
I take the greatest exception to statements from your posts exemlified by the one quoted above.