Me too, which points to something of a problem. On the one hand we encourage gays to join groups like Exodus and leave the gay lifestyle, but on the other hand, we're never going to truly let them put it behind them.
There are some women who are willing to take them on. The ex-gays can put their homosexual history behind them with those women. My daughter and I aren't among them. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but if I married an ex-gay, every time I got into bed with him I'd be thinking about what he'd done with men and I'd be sickened. It has nothing to do with forgiveness per se--after all, the ex-gay man has done nothing to me for which I need to forgive him. It's just the gross-out factor.
Anyway, I tend to go for real guys who love women and absolutely love having sex with us, not metros and not people who have to work on being attracted to women.
You knew what you were doing, didn't you?
Excellent point. Unfortunately, this is true as well of many groups that don't fit into the conventional image of what it looks like to be part of a church.
And I think I'd be concerned if my daughter was attracted to an ex-gay man, but for now I have to try to accept and see them as "healed" - that's what Christ calls me to.
Through the blogging medium I have observed a rather impressive following with Exodus. Although I can't ever claim to understand what goes on in the heart and mind of a homosexual, from the enlightening blog discussions, those trying to overcome homosexuality experience an overwhelming struggle. The guys from Exodus (and similar movements) are very committed to helping one another overcome.
When I read the hope and success the men find through Exodus, I am very thankful.
>> "we're never going to truly let them put it behind them" <<
Well "putting it behind them" is what the whole problem is about, isn't it.
I know what you are saying, but the wording just asks for a comment.