He should have thought about that before he had his fifteen minutes under the yum-yum tree.
How sad. The baby has a father that wants him but can't have him. Why did they even bother to call him?
To hell with the baby, it's all about "me".
(...a delicate balancing act between the importance of biological ties and the undisrupted placement of babies whose mothers relinquish them for adoption.)
What balancing act would that be? The mother doesn't want the babies, so what would be a reason why the biological father wouldn't get the kids if they want them? Has this world gone mad?
Here's a story that is similar that generated quite a few
responses from FReepers:
Dad: Son put up for adoption without his knowledge (Girlfriend said baby was stillborn)
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1576839/posts
The CNN link on the thread no longer pulls up so here's
the story from another source:
http://www.rockymountainnews.com/drmn/local/article/0,1299,DRMN_15_4485527,00.html
Pueblo dad seeks custody of son he's never known
By Andrea S. Anderson, Associated Press
February 22, 2006
VERONA, N.J. - David Archuletta has never met the 4-year-old boy with the dark eyes.
He has only seen a photo of the boy, the son he thought was dead, the son who was adopted without his knowledge or consent.
That New Jersey officials say they were misled by a private adoption agency doesn't cut it for Archuletta. He wants to see his son - and he wants custody of the child.
"He looks just like me," said Archuletta, 46, of Pueblo. "I just want to be able to see my son."
The boy's mother, Archuletta's former girlfriend, told him the baby was stillborn during a 2001 trip to visit a sister in Michigan. That was a lie. In reality, she was in New Jersey, putting the baby up for adoption.
More than a year later, she said she felt guilty and told him the truth. Archuletta immediately told New Jersey authorities that he wasn't notified of the adoption as required by state law. State officials initially rejected his complaint but now say they were misled by the agency, Verona-based Children of the World, and that Archuletta should have been notified.
For three years, Archuletta's search for his son has been mired in bureaucracy, stifled by a slow-moving government agency and a private adoption company whose records are protected by the confidentiality that surrounds adoptions.
An Associated Press review of hundreds of pages of state documents that involve the adoption and Children of the World show that the company knew of Archuletta's existence for nine months before it allowed his son to be adopted yet made no attempt to track him down.
"Children of the World didn't do nothing to find me," said Archuletta, who is disabled by Parkinson's disease and lives with his mother. He says he can't afford a lawyer to help him in his custody quest.
Veronica Serio, Children of the World's executive director, declined to speak about the case when reached at the agency's headquarters in this town about 19 miles west of Manhattan. The adoptive parents' attorney, Steven Sklar, also declined to comment when reached by phone at his Kendall Park office, citing confidentiality.
Archuletta first learned he had a son when shown the photo by his former girlfriend, Penny Sue Candelaria. In a recent telephone interview from a Colorado jail, where she is serving time for attempted vandalism, Candelaria said she showed him the photo six months after the adoption was completed in August 2002.
"I started really feeling guilty," Candelaria said of deceiving Archuletta. "He has no children, and that's his only child. He was very upset. So was his family."
Officials initially dismissed Archuletta's complaint against the adoption agency as unsubstantiated, state records show. But in a letter sent to Archuletta three months ago - nearly three years after he sent the complaint - the Department of Human Services said it had reversed that decision, saying Children of the World had failed to tell state officials it had knowledge of Archuletta's existence during its initial investigation.
"Based on additional information that was made available to us, we found out that licensing regulators had been misled," a DHS spokesman, Joe Delmar, said.
New Jersey law says agencies must notify anyone who may be a child's biological parent before the adoption process can be finished. The state also is obligated to search for a birth parent when an adoption agency is told one has been identified.
The state is looking into the agency's handling of the adoption.
Legal experts say the adoption should not have gone forward in the first place.
State adoption investigators say Candelaria first told the agency's workers the father was unknown. Later, but still months before the adoption was completed, she sent a letter to the adoptive parents demanding more money for expenses and threatening to tell the child's father about the adoption if the couple did not comply, according to DHS records.
Sklar, the attorney for the adoptive parents, notified Children of the World's Serio of the letter nine months before the adoption was completed, but she did not follow up on the information, according to DHS records.
In an interview with state investigators in 2003, Serio said she had learned of the birth father's existence only that year, according to DHS records.
But in an affidavit taken in December 2004, Serio wrote she had received the information in 2001. Serio also said that the father had failed to come forward within the required window of 120 days and that the agency was not legally obligated to locate him.
DHS officials say Serio's interpretation of the law was wrong and that she made contradictory statements to investigators.
"Your agency's explanations for failing to reach out to the birth mother after receiving information that she knew how to contact the birth father are unacceptable," DHS licensing chief Gary Sefchik wrote in a letter to Serio in September.
Candelaria, 44, acknowledged placing the baby for adoption without Archuletta's permission. She said she was unprepared for a second child when she became pregnant in 2001.
"I had a 7-year-old daughter I was already raising by myself," said Candelaria, who was also in the process of divorcing another man, her daughter's father, at the time she became pregnant with Archuletta's child.
She said she contacted Children of the World after reading the agency's classified ad in a newspaper in Pueblo, where she and Archuletta were living.
As she readied to give birth, she told Archuletta she was taking a trip to visit a sister in Michigan. When she returned, she told him the baby was dead when it was born.
In reality, she had given birth in a New Jersey hospital, and the newborn was taken by Children of the World for the adoption.
http://www.rockymountainnews.com/drmn/local/article/0,1299,DRMN_15_4485527,00.html
Some posters here want to ascribe characteristics to Jeremiah Clayton Jones that are not mentioned in the article. The article does not say that Jones had unprotected sex with multiple partners. It does not say that he is unwilling or unable to support his child. The mother of the child is his ex-fiancee, but the article does not say who ended the engagement, or why, or if there is a chance for reconciliation.
Looks like he flunked out of the class on adultery.
does anybody know the answer to these questions concerning adoption.
If the baby is given to the bio dad, then can he go after her for child support? Fathers must pay child support so moms must pay child support too, right?
Will the father be require to pay for all the medical costs of doctor office visits, tests and hospital? Perhaps the reason she is giving away for adoption because the adoption agency or adoptive parents pay all these bills and she knows the 23 year old isn't required to pay or will never be able to pay and she will be left with these medical bills.
There's a simple solution to all this, guys. Keep your pants zipped until you find a woman you want to marry.
It's a problem I never really thought about before.
I guess I'm so used to hearing about all these dads that don't want to be tied down to fatherhood - it's heartbreaking to think of dads in this situation that do want to raise their child.
If the mother doesn't want to raise the baby, the baby should be with the dad.