Every time I flew, I had to fully sit back in the seat and my knees still touched the back of the seat in front of me. And when the person reclined, I damn near had numb legs and knees by the time we landed. I'm 6'3 at 232.
I feel you. The joys of having wide shoulders and long legs in economy are indescribable. I personally like to lean into the aisle so I can get nailed by the drinks cart as it comes by.
As for the standing option- heck, for short haul (under 90 minutes) I wouldn't mind being strapped in and standing.