[Paradox]

My theory is that we have created a mythology about ideal love. Many people have bought into it. If they dont find that ideal, they wont marry.

[riverdawg]

"... we have created a mythology about ideal love."

I was a bachelor for about twenty years, after a ten-year marriage that ended in divorce. I eventually realized that I had placed too many requirements on any future mrs. riverdawg: can't be too young or too old, nobody from work, no children, etc. I ended up marrying someone I met at work, who is twenty years younger, with a five-year-old (now eleven-year-old) child. We broke every "rule" put forward by so-called relationship counselors. The lesson to be learned from our experience is "don't paint yourself into a little corner; it can be very lonely there."