You act like you can always see it coming well before it happens.
You've got many ways to avoid this, pick the right woman, communicate effectively and with love, and when things get heated, be able to remain of clear thought.
Easy enough to say until you've had a female rabid badger coming after you.
Strength under control is gentleness, and it is possible to restrain without causing harm, but not if you are ham-handed or over emotional.
Unless the woman in question has no desire to be restained and can whup a lot of men if she so desired.
I'm not saying that there aren't rabid, exception to the general rule type 'ladies' out there, but this article said 21%. I'm stating my own opinion here, but I just don't think the number of powerful, rabid women can be that high, which leads me to believe that some of these guys are choosing to take a passive role in their own abuse.
Now, I am in no way suggesting that they in turn attempt abuse as retailiation, but I would think they could/should be avoiding the situation. In the end though, to each their own I guess - I've seen plenty of disfunctional relationships.