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Why marriage is good medicine for men
Parade Magazine ^ | June 18, 2006 | Gail Sheehy

Posted on 06/18/2006 3:59:27 PM PDT by Past Your Eyes

The biggest fiction behind James Bond is that the fantasy master spy and world-class heartbreaker lived past 40-something. It’s not just the death traps and vodka martinis, or even the three packs of cigarettes a day, that would have shortened his life. His naked ring finger would have too. Because real men need wives.

Consider the data: Married men—regardless of age, sex, race, income or education—consistently have been found to be healthier than men who are single, divorced or widowed. This so-called “marriage benefit” begins to kick in right after the wedding, then builds. Husbands ages 18 to 44 are strikingly healthier than bachelors of the same age. At every age, in fact, marriage not only protects men’s health but also prolongs their lives. So, what’s behind this marriage benefit?

(Excerpt) Read more at parade.com ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: alimony; bachelor; ballandchains; expensive; goodbyeliberty; health; honeytrap; jamesbond; marriage; married; men; moderndayslavery; nofreedom; propaganda; thejoyofdivorce; touch; wife
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Lucky me. I have a wife who doesn't even need to read this to find out she's doing all the right things.
1 posted on 06/18/2006 3:59:32 PM PDT by Past Your Eyes
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To: Past Your Eyes

Wasn't Keanu Reeves on the cover of last week's Parade saying "I want to get married?" I guess 42 is starting to scare him.


2 posted on 06/18/2006 4:05:43 PM PDT by wizardoz ("Let them eat Hamas." - Luke Skyfreeper)
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To: Past Your Eyes

As Chekhov wrote, "Bachelors usually die raving mad. Married people die even before they go crazy".


3 posted on 06/18/2006 4:07:59 PM PDT by GSlob
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To: wizardoz

Yup. Most people eventually grow up and figure stuff out. Some never do. Mostly, they are called liberals.
Some only figure part of it out. They are called moderates.


4 posted on 06/18/2006 4:08:41 PM PDT by Past Your Eyes (Every time you think, you weaken the nation.)
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To: Past Your Eyes
I love these stupid articles. Men aren't healthy *because* of marriage. Men are married *because* they are healthy. The drunkards/smokers/druggies are more likely to be single or get divorced.

Say no to marriage!
5 posted on 06/18/2006 4:10:58 PM PDT by billybudd
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To: Past Your Eyes

SARCASM ALERT ---

I read the article in Parade. They are homo-phobic because there was not one word about homosexual marriage being good for homosexuals. So they must want homosexuals to stay in the closet. What other conclusion is there in this enlightened age in the year 2006.

SARCASM OFF


6 posted on 06/18/2006 4:12:39 PM PDT by Dilbert San Diego
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To: Past Your Eyes

Today is Father's Day. Rather than congratulate the men who have steped up to the plate and have become fathers, some people seem only capable of telling men what they should be doing or are lucky enough to be doing.

Men who marry the women they love and remain engaged before during and after the birthing process deserve better. If they stick around and do their best to be good dads, they deserve a day when they can be recognized for doing so.

Today I've engaged on one thread where fathers were scolded for not paying better child support. Now this thread tells fathers how damn lucky they are that they have a woman in their lives.

In case most people don't get it, Fathers are to be congratulated for what they have done, not assuming the worst or conveying the belief that they lead lucky lives due to a woman being in it.

There's not a father out here who is going to deny that children have made their lives richer. There's not a father out here who won't admit that having a wife has made their life richer. This isn't a day to congratulate those children or the mothers is it.

Dads, thanks for being a stand up person. There's at least one person out here who thinks you're great, and that society is better off because you're a member of it.


7 posted on 06/18/2006 4:14:22 PM PDT by DoughtyOne (Hey Senators, what have you done with those Conservatives we sent to Congress? (CyberAnt Inspired))
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To: Past Your Eyes

It figures, a woman wrote it.


8 posted on 06/18/2006 4:14:25 PM PDT by tet68 ( " We would not die in that man's company, that fears his fellowship to die with us...." Henry V.)
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To: Past Your Eyes

(Why marriage is good medicine for men)




Because otherwise we'd have way too much money and free time on our hands?

(sarcasm)


9 posted on 06/18/2006 4:22:14 PM PDT by A Troop 1-14 Cav (By the time you understand women, you are one.)
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To: billybudd
"A man who doesn't spend time with his family can never be a real man"
- Vito Corleone, The Godfather (1972)

When our society learns that this is true, our society will be much improved.

10 posted on 06/18/2006 4:22:37 PM PDT by Tom D. (Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy. - Benj. Franklin)
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To: Past Your Eyes
Real men dont need wives.

Real men need beer.

Then, in decending order:
Whiskey
Wine
Work
BBQ
Coffee
Good Shaving gear.
A Truck.

Everything else is optional or for recreation.
11 posted on 06/18/2006 4:23:46 PM PDT by Pukin Dog (Dont be a Conservopussy! Defend Ann Coulter, you weenies!)
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To: DoughtyOne
I got a card from my son today and it's something I'll cherish for a long time.

He spent last night at his grandmothers and this morning when I picked him up he handed me a card. Now you should know that my boy is 11.

He looked at me and said: "It's a Birthday Card I changed into a Fathers Day card. I just thought that Fathers Day should be as big a deal as your birthday."

I don't choke up real often, but I did right then.

I know I'll never deny that my life is richer because I'm married to the love of my life and have been blessed with a fine son. I don't know how or why I have been so richly rewarded because I honestly don't think I've done all that much to deserve it. I just try to remain grateful every day I get out of bed.

Today is my 'Friday' and I'm really looking forward to spending my 2 days off with my wife and son just bumming around, maybe going to the pool, and just generally hanging out with the two people I love the most in this world.

Nobody needs to thank me for being a husband and a dad. There isn't anything else in this world I'd rather be known as.

L

12 posted on 06/18/2006 4:25:24 PM PDT by Lurker (When decadence pervades the corridors of power, depravity walks the side streets.)
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To: GSlob
As Chekhov wrote, "Bachelors usually die raving mad. Married people die even before they go crazy".

So true it's scary, I know a few people who just got married and you can just sense their life force getting wiped out. Of course, I've met many exceptions also.
13 posted on 06/18/2006 4:26:55 PM PDT by DarkSavant
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To: Past Your Eyes
...marriage is good medicine for men

Is this over the counter medicine or do we need prescriptions?

14 posted on 06/18/2006 4:29:04 PM PDT by SaveTheChief ("This one goes to eleven.")
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To: Pukin Dog

Are you married?

Just askin'.


15 posted on 06/18/2006 4:29:41 PM PDT by altura (Bushbot No. 1 - get in line.)
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To: Past Your Eyes
"Married men — regardless of age, sex, race, income or education — consistently have been found..."

Huh? Married MEN, regardless of their sex? Just how many sexes of men are there?

Maybe I don't want to know...

16 posted on 06/18/2006 4:29:48 PM PDT by DJ Frisat (Tired of being called intolerant by the truly intolerant...)
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To: tet68

This is the first thing by Gail Sheehy I have ever read that didn't make me want to puke. If a hen sets on a dozen eggs and only one hatches, you don't throw that one out with all the rotten ones.


17 posted on 06/18/2006 4:30:23 PM PDT by Past Your Eyes (Every time you think, you weaken the nation.)
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To: Lurker

You're a good man, L. Thanks for sharing!


18 posted on 06/18/2006 4:30:28 PM PDT by JustaDumbBlonde
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To: DoughtyOne

Dads, thanks for being a stand up person. There's at least one person out here who thinks you're great, and that society is better off because you're a member of it.


&&&
And here's another person who thinks dads are great! Thanks to all the real fathers out there. Thanks for all that you do to hold your families and civilization together.


19 posted on 06/18/2006 4:30:37 PM PDT by Bigg Red (Never trust Democrats with national security.)
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To: altura
Only to my local Beverages-and-More store.
20 posted on 06/18/2006 4:31:08 PM PDT by Pukin Dog (Dont be a Conservopussy! Defend Ann Coulter, you weenies!)
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To: Lurker

God Bless you and your family, brother. You have discovered the secret of life: love others more than yourself. A famous man once said that.


21 posted on 06/18/2006 4:31:12 PM PDT by angelrod
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To: Lurker
I thought this was going to be one of those fun jokey threads, then you had to go get all sniffy on us.

I'm outta here.

Nice story though.
22 posted on 06/18/2006 4:32:22 PM PDT by Pukin Dog (Dont be a Conservopussy! Defend Ann Coulter, you weenies!)
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To: Past Your Eyes
Why marriage is good medicine for men

Love these sweeping generalizations! If the guy is married to a shrew or a user, it ain't good medicine at all!

23 posted on 06/18/2006 4:32:52 PM PDT by JennysCool (Roll out the Canarble Wagon!)
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To: DJ Frisat

Ooo, good catch. Maybe she meant the verb rather than the noun.


24 posted on 06/18/2006 4:33:15 PM PDT by Past Your Eyes (Every time you think, you weaken the nation.)
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To: JennysCool

In the article she makes just that point.


25 posted on 06/18/2006 4:34:01 PM PDT by Past Your Eyes (Every time you think, you weaken the nation.)
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To: DJ Frisat

Huh? Married MEN, regardless of their sex? Just how many sexes of men are there?

**
Good eye! I didn't even catch that! (I guess you didn't skim like I did.) I guess the writer just has a macro in her Word documents that covers all of the PC bases, something she learned in lefty journalism school.


26 posted on 06/18/2006 4:34:32 PM PDT by Bigg Red (Never trust Democrats with national security.)
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To: Past Your Eyes
We celebrated Father's Day yesterday, because that's how my kids' schedule worked out. My daughters gave me a card that showed some guy being xrayed, with the caption, "Science proves that Dads are made of money."

And it'll be Father's Day again on Thursday, when my son comes home from Ellsworth AFB.

And today my wife went shopping by herself, so I could have the house to myself. If only I could afford to save all the money she saves when she goes to sales...

27 posted on 06/18/2006 4:36:03 PM PDT by Bernard (God helps those who helps themselves - The US Government takes in the rest.)
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To: Pukin Dog

Gotcha.

You just seem like a good prospect.


28 posted on 06/18/2006 4:36:31 PM PDT by altura (Bushbot No. 1 - get in line.)
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To: Past Your Eyes
Ah! Then the headline's even more misleading! :-)
29 posted on 06/18/2006 4:37:05 PM PDT by JennysCool (Roll out the Canarble Wagon!)
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To: DarkSavant

Well, he was a physician, and ought to have known.


30 posted on 06/18/2006 4:38:56 PM PDT by GSlob
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To: angelrod
It would be impossible for me not to.

I'm sitting here at work on a Sunday night, all alone and it would be easy to get depressed about that I suppose.

But I'm munching on a sandwich and a bowl of soup my two favorite people packed up for me for my dinner and doing a bit of Freeping before I get back to working on a database project.

Lurker Jr. made the ham and cheese sandwich with spicy mustard just like I like it.

Lurker Control made the chicken soup from scratch.

In my lunchpail is some fresh fruit, some crackers, and a piece of Grahams Chocolate. On top of that my son put the card he got me which is now sitting proudly next to my monitor.

When I get home at midnight I'm going to pour myself two fingers of Talisker, light a cigar, and ponder just how a miserable low down no goodnik like myself could have so much wealth bestowed upon him.

L

31 posted on 06/18/2006 4:41:07 PM PDT by Lurker (When decadence pervades the corridors of power, depravity walks the side streets.)
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To: JennysCool

Well, water is good for you, too, but you can also drown in it.
";^)


32 posted on 06/18/2006 4:42:23 PM PDT by Past Your Eyes (Every time you think, you weaken the nation.)
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To: Past Your Eyes

"Married men live longer than single men.
But married men are a lot more willing to die." Johnny Carson


33 posted on 06/18/2006 4:43:40 PM PDT by TET1968 (SI MINOR PLUS EST ERGO NIHIL SUNT OMNIA)
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To: TET1968

LOL. Johnny is dead and he was married, what, 3 or 4 times?


34 posted on 06/18/2006 4:44:51 PM PDT by Past Your Eyes (Every time you think, you weaken the nation.)
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To: JennysCool
Love these sweeping generalizations! If the guy is married to a shrew or a user, it ain't good medicine at all!

Ditto that. When my ex (while we were still married) shot and killed her boyfriend in my kitchen, I kinda decided it was time to try out the single life. Have been single now over 15 years. Raised all 4 of my kids by myself. They threw me a big fathers day party today. I do get lonely, but I'm too old to take another chance on a bad marriage.

35 posted on 06/18/2006 4:45:14 PM PDT by umgud (FR, NASCAR & 24, way too much butt time)
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To: Lurker

LOL
Happy Father's Day.


36 posted on 06/18/2006 4:45:18 PM PDT by TET1968 (SI MINOR PLUS EST ERGO NIHIL SUNT OMNIA)
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To: billybudd

Marrried men don't live longer... it only SEEMS much longer!


37 posted on 06/18/2006 4:45:56 PM PDT by FormerACLUmember (No program, no ideas, no clue: The democrats!)
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To: Pukin Dog
Sorry bout that.

I did throw in single malt scotch and fine cigars though, so I think you may have left a bit early.

Drop by later and I'll pour you a snort.

You can't stay too long, though. I've got some plans for the Missus right after I finish that scotch.

L

38 posted on 06/18/2006 4:46:28 PM PDT by Lurker (When decadence pervades the corridors of power, depravity walks the side streets.)
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To: Bigg Red

"I guess the writer just has a macro in her Word documents that covers all of the PC bases, something she learned in lefty journalism school."

It's hard to take any writer (or editor) who writes that sloppily, seriously.

Yeah, I know -- I'm not winning any prizes for that sentence, either...


39 posted on 06/18/2006 4:47:21 PM PDT by DJ Frisat (Tired of being called intolerant by the truly intolerant...)
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To: Past Your Eyes

On this day let's not forget poor old Jack Bauer.
Happy father's Day Jack, your on in 9 minutes.


40 posted on 06/18/2006 4:50:30 PM PDT by TET1968 (SI MINOR PLUS EST ERGO NIHIL SUNT OMNIA)
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To: Past Your Eyes
I'm a 42-year-old bachelor, and I agree completely with this article. I'm single because I spent my teens and 20's in churches that discouraged dating and marriage. When I finally realized how stupid these people were, I was going through a layoff and didn't get my career back on track for several years. Since that time, I've had very poor luck meeting women who were appropriate for me.

The idiots in the churches that I attended back then never would have admitted that marriage could be good for a man. They constantly prattled about how good it would be to remain single to do church stuff. Now, I look around and see myself in much worse health than guys who found the relationships that they need. Even when I appeared to be in very good health, I always felt that my situation wasn't healthy. Now, I can certainly feel in my body that things aren't working right. I realize that a bad marriage is worse than being single, but the notion that being single is as healthy as being in a good marriage is nonsense. I hope this information gets wide publicity and that others don't make the mistakes that I did.

Bill

41 posted on 06/18/2006 4:52:34 PM PDT by WFTR (Liberty isn't for cowards)
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To: billybudd

Marriage is a contest between two people to see who can drive the other one crazy first.


42 posted on 06/18/2006 4:54:49 PM PDT by Paladin2 (If the political indictment's from Fitz, the jury always acquits.)
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To: DoughtyOne
Dads, thanks for being a stand up person. There's at least one person out here who thinks you're great, and that society is better off because you're a member of it.
Damn right.

First thing I have to hit the snooze button and kick my wife out of bed - in case she doesn't wake up when she hits the floor.

Then I have to keep an ear out making sure she's getting the kids up, making them lunches, and getting them out the door to school.

Then I eventually drag my butt out of bed, grab the thermos of strangely always fresh hot coffee and a cup, fire up the laptop on the porch, light a smoke, check the DOW, and put my feet up.

Sometimes I let her get a nap in before I demand her favors.

Now on Father's day things are really great ... ;-)

43 posted on 06/18/2006 5:00:02 PM PDT by Tunehead54 (Nothing funny here ;-)
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To: Lurker

Very nice posts.

Happy Father's Day, FRiend.


44 posted on 06/18/2006 5:05:48 PM PDT by Judith Anne (Thank you St. Jude for favors granted.)
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To: wizardoz

I’m in my forties and single. Hey Keanu, look me up sometime. :),


45 posted on 06/18/2006 5:08:24 PM PDT by Caramelgal (I don't have a tag line.... I am a tag line. So tag, you are it.)
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To: Past Your Eyes
Father's Day is only half that without your loving wife and mother of your offspring in your arms next to you! :)
46 posted on 06/18/2006 5:11:08 PM PDT by DTogo (I haven't left the GOP, the GOP left me.)
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To: wizardoz
Wasn't Keanu Reeves on the cover of last week's Parade saying "I want to get married?"

Who's the lucky guy?

47 posted on 06/18/2006 5:15:25 PM PDT by GATOR NAVY (Twenty years in the Navy. Never drunk on duty - never sober on liberty)
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To: Pukin Dog

I'd put my Chocolate Lab right behind coffee and put my truck ahead of my shaving gear, but to each his own......


48 posted on 06/18/2006 5:15:37 PM PDT by wolf24 ("It's always easy to rally the stupid.")
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To: Judith Anne

This isn't news. Men with a loving spouse are healthier than single men. The interesting part is that there is no effect the other way, no health advantage--married women aren't healthier than single women.


49 posted on 06/18/2006 5:17:58 PM PDT by RSteyn
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To: Pukin Dog
Then, in decending order:

(minor expansion)
Out here in flyover country, the truck comes first.
It's needed to drive to the jobsite to earn the money for all the
items in your admirably comprehensive list.
And of coure, to drive (soberly) to the store to get all that good stuff.
50 posted on 06/18/2006 5:35:17 PM PDT by VOA
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