Nothing we said seemed to be working but then one day she told her boss she was pregnant and wasn't sure what to do. It turns out he had 3 adopted children and 2 of them were adopted thru Catholic Social Services, which I had been telling her about. And THAT turned out to be the thing that changed her mind.
Funny how God works...
I went to tell my daughter (who was 14 at the time) that the abortion wasn't going to happen, and she burst into tears. She told me she had been crying herself to sleep every night because of the potential loss of her niece/nephew.
The pain from abortion is far greater than it appears.
At age 20, 2 months after I became engaged I found out I was pregnant.
Despite the engagement I had many friends and relatives urging me not to "ruin my life" by having a baby so young before we had a chance to get our feet underneath us.
We had no money, we were excited about the marriage, but not ready for parenthood yet. My fiance had a mountain of student loan debt.
In the eyes of the "world" - there were many good reasons to trot off to the local abortion clinic.
Ironically - it was my good friends who had already had abortions that urged me not to do it. They were suffering. They felt they had been "had". The clinic gave them the 'ole "clump of cells" routine and told them they could move on with their lives.
Later they learned this was all a lie and wish they could have done it differently.
And really...they were only telling me what I already knew in my heart - that this was a living growing human life.
I had made my "choice" when I participated in her conception.
The result is that now she is a beautiful young women who is getting ready to leave the nest for college. She has younger brothers and sisters. I am also thankful for a long and happy marriage that most likely never would have made it had we aborted our own baby.
I could be wealthier, I could have invested more time into a career and status....but when I look at my husband and children I am very pleased with the choices we made.