There is no reason this thread should be turned into a tent revival.
The wonderful thing about where I go to church is that I can go to my Brothers and Sisters in Christ with my problems and know that, like Christ, they love me and will pray with me when I am in trouble. If you want to go stand in a field and hug yourself, feel free.This should not be construed as a criticism of your way of dealing with this terrible situation, but my (?our) choice has just as much weight.
I think if a person is sincere enough to share her story, she is big enough to accept other people's well intentioned, heartfelt wishes for a means to some peace of mind. For me, God offers this, and so I shared that with Fishtalk. We may make a gentle suggestion. Someone else might think a special book or poem is appropriate. Folks are sincere, I think. V's wife.
SIGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!