"HR wonkette: 'I don't think I want to answer any more of your questions...'"
LOL! Go get 'em! I love it. I'm so glad to see this case.
My sister is a lesbian Femi-Gnatzie and we have had many arguments about this. She has every right to work benefits that I do as a married heterosexual, and she can d@mn well PAY for them HERSELF as we do as a self-employed couple. She wants health insurance? Buy it. She wants dental? Buy it. She wants her "partner" to have POA? Get a lawyer. She wants death benefits for herself and her partner? Buy insurance. It's NOT Rocket Science.
I actually gave her a copy of The Constitution and The Bill of Rights, asking her to show me exactly where my rights as a citizen end and her special interest rights begin.
She hates it when I do things like that to her, LOL!
Show her the Office depot catalogue. It has all the legal forms she needs. POA is about $5.00. Nothing if you download offline.