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I guess I wouldn't give advice that I never saw fit to take myself. As I said, I would not want her to start too young, but if she was mature enough to deal with protecting herself from disease and pregnancy, she'd likely be out on her own by that time anyway. Once your daughters graduate from college and are living on their own, you won't know for sure what they're doing, so they'd better have a solid grounding in what they believe and how to comport themselves.

My own opinion is that an emphasis on virginity under ALL circumstances could lead to very youthful, badly-considered marriages that are unlikely to last. I would prefer my hypothetical daughters learn the difference between "Mr. Right" and "Mr. Right Now". I did, and that's why I've gotten to the twenty year mark.

I guess I wouldn't give advice that I never saw fit to take myself.

What? So your children wouldn't get the benefit of your advice to avoid the same mistakes you may have made? Pardon me, but that's insane. I've heard exactly those words coming out of the mouths of people I consider looney liberals.

As I said, I would not want her to start too young,

I almost shudder to ask--what's "too young"?

But if she was mature enough to deal with protecting herself from disease and pregnancy, she'd likely be out on her own by that time anyway.

Emotional maturity usually does not go hand-in-hand with sowing one's wild oats.

Once your daughters graduate from college and are living on their own, you won't know for sure what they're doing, so they'd better have a solid grounding in what they believe and how to comport themselves.

I fully agree. At that point, it's all on them. But I'll be damned if I don't give them a solid grounding. And I mean that quite literally.

My own opinion is that an emphasis on virginity under ALL circumstances could lead to very youthful, badly-considered marriages that are unlikely to last.

ALL circumstances? As I think I asked before, what circumstances could you foresee where you would approve of your 18-year-old daughter having sex outside of marriage?

I would prefer my hypothetical daughters learn the difference between "Mr. Right" and "Mr. Right Now".

For my real daughters, "Mr. Right" will (hopefully) be the guy who's man enough to marry her--and want to have children with her--before sex. That right there is an excellent way of weeding out the creeps and rogues.

I did, and that's why I've gotten to the twenty year mark.

Hey, as long as we're dealing with anecdotal evidence, I know plenty of people who skanked around before they got married and are now divorced multiple times. Whereas the people who I know waited are all still hitched.