Posted on 10/16/2006 7:39:02 AM PDT by SmithL
So Bevan Dufty, who is gay and a San Francisco supervisor, is sharing a house with a woman named Rebecca Goldfader, and together they are raising a child named Sidney. For some reason, this situation enraged normally sensible radio talk show host Pete Wilson, who called it an "experiment," partly because Dufty and Goldfader are not in a romantic relationship.
Here's the breaking-news non-flash: It's all an experiment. Every adventure in parenting is trial and error, generally performed by people totally unqualified for the task. I think of myself at 23, which is how old I was when my first daughter was born, and I think: Would I entrust an infant to this man? Absolutely not. I remember him well. He was barely sentient. He meant well, usually, but he was deeply ignorant.
My wife and I used books written by alleged experts, much as one would use a car repair manual, except children are not cars and sometimes the "correct" approach doesn't work and then what? Oh, let's ask a 23-year-old idiot! He'll know!
And of course, expert opinions change over time. When my wife was a child, her mother was told to let her cry, that a child needs to know that she cannot manipulate her parents that way. By the time I got around to having a kid, the conventional wisdom had changed. Nurture was in. If she cried, I picked her up -- until one day I got tired of it, so I didn't. Inconsistent parenting! Sends the wrong message! Woe is me!
. . . Wilson also said: "At some point there is a limit to how far we can stretch the self-indulgent search for the alternative that we have been involved in the last 30 or 40 years in this country."
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Heterosexual parenting: natural.
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At least he admits that his opinion is worthless.
Wife? This must have happened a long time ago. I don't think they have those in SFO anymore.
This is at least the second time I've read about this and there's still one thing I haven't figured out. I assume Rebecca is a female, but is Bevan a gay male or a gay woman? They are raising a child together. Does that mean that Bevan is the biological father and Rebecca is the biological mother?
San Francisco Supervisor, Bevan Duffy, is assumed to be the biological father.
Sidney? Ugh! The kid's already got enough to deal with and they name him Sidney?
So was Bevvy man enough to get it up and impregnate her or did they have to artificially inseminate her?
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