[Da_Shrimp]

Just a vanity... but genuinely interested in your experiences!

[Txsleuth]

Congratulations!!!

I can't offer any advice because of personal experience..but, I just hope that your stop being afraid.

Just have fun....enjoy every minute with your baby...because it isn't a cliche that they grow up before you know it...it is TRUE!

[p. henry]

My eldest was born when I was 38, my youngest when I was 39.

I believe men in their 30's and 40's on the whole are better fathers than younger men. They may have slightly less energy, but they have more patience, wisdom, tolerance and perspective, and when you are changing a diaper at 3:00 in the morning, patience is more important than energy.

As to hints, if you are musical, singing a child to sleep is not a bad idea. I remember with great fondness walking slowly around our baby's room in the wee hours singing to a restive child on my shoulder. To this day my daughters, who are now in their mid to late teens sometimes ask me to sing for them at night. Also, it may trite, but it is also true that the greatest gift you can give your child is your time, generally as much as possible. Finally, challenge your child. Don't be overly protective. Have confidence in his or her skills, even when there is little basis for that confidence.

Congratulations. You are about to enter the best years of your life. Sometimes I find myself regreting that those times are pretty much past for me.

There is no duty more compelling than being a father. There is no title more honorable than "Dad."

[Paradox]

I am in my mid 40's, and I have two young sons. I do, somewhat, regret not having kids earlier, but mostly because I feel that I would have had more energy to play with them and tolerate the things they do. On the other hand, I have more Wisdom, presumably. Something this experience has taught me, I did not know LOVE, true love, before. I mean, at this time in my life, I almost chuckle about how I felt so strongly about romantic love when I was younger, when THIS kind of love makes that now seem almost trivial.

[BikerTrash]

Single parent, homeschooling, 49 year old Dad of a 12 year old boy.

For every plus there is a minus. The plus here is your maturity, mentally and emotionally.

The minus here is your maturity, physically. Stay in shape!

You'll know you're doing a good job if you get tired beyond what you've ever thought possible, in ways you've never even thought of.

Beyond that, enjoy! Best thing that will ever happen to you. Congratulations.

[bray]

You will love it since you will have more time for him/her. Money is more plentiful.

Pray for W and Our Troops

[dinoparty]

I was 35 when we had our son last year. He's now 16 months old. It has been a blast. I think it is a good thing to be a little older and wiser.

My advice: read to him/her. read to him/her. read to him/her. talk to him/her. talk to him/her. talk to him/her. (all from day 1)

[Prokopton]

I think you have more patience at that age and react to things in a more laid back way. I don't think your age will be any problem in keeping up with the darling. My experience was that things that might have seemed like a crisis when I was younger actually became quite humorous.
Relax and enjoy!

[HarleyD]

Congrats. My wife and I became parents when we were 43. We weren't suppose to have children. (So much for modern science.) A lot depends on how old your wife is. If she is substantially younger it will be easier. Here are a few things we've experienced.

We've always felt like odd ducks at PTA meetings and get together simply because most of my son's friends' moms and dads are about 15 years younger. Few parents are our age. People are always talking about their children in college while you'll be talking about yours in preschool. They want to talk about heading off to some exotic vacation and you'll be talking about going to Michigan.

You're probably more financially secure than most parents your child's age which helps you when they wish to take piano lessons or want the latest video game (try not to spoil).

While in your forties you feel like you can keep up. When you get into your mid-fifties they are just becoming a teenager and all that baggage. We have a wonderful son but at time.... Also, in your mid-fifties the old brains cells are starting to deteriorate and when they need help with Algebra or learning German, it can be difficult helping them with their homework. Thanks goodness for the Internet.

They will want to stay out or have sleepovers staying up until 2 am. You will want to go to bed at 9.

Just about the time you will want to retire, they will be heading off to college. We are planning to delay our retirement by about 3 years to get him through his undergrad degree.

Children are a great blessings but they are a lot of work. We wouldn't trade this experience but it would be very difficult to have had another child simply because we really wouldn't have had the stamina.

Since we were both along in our careers and couldn't give them up because of retirement, we made a decision to spend every moment we could with our son. In thirteen years (with the exception of day care while we were working) he has only had a baby sitter 1 time and that was an emergency. It was the right decision. I like to think our child is such a great kid because we've spent so much time with him.

[Maceman]

I became a dad for the first and only time at 48. I was scared to death, especially financially.

Everyone told me that babies bring luck, and it was true. The finances have worked themselves out, because somehow, with God's help, my consulting business really began taking off after a lot of lean years.

My daughter is the best thing that ever happened to me.

I can't believe I almost missed out entirely on fatherhood. If I were 44 when she was born, we would definitely have had another. Sad, but still I am grateful for the joy of being Daddy.

Being the dad of a toddler at age 50 was physically more challenging and draining than it would have been in my 20s or 30s. But somehow, the patience and wisdom that come with being 50 makes up for it. Also, at my age now (mid-50s), I am more focused on my family than my career, which would not have been the case 15 years ago.

Congratulations. You're a lucky man.

[Sweet_Sunflower29]

Congratulations! As a mother of four children, my suggestion to you is only this; cherish every single moment because it will fly by and be gone before you know it.

Best wishes, FRiend.

[buck61]

I remember when my first child was born. My father told me, son, you had your last night of peaceful sleep.

Don't want to alarm you, however what my father said was very true and, I'm lucky, all three are wonderful children who love their parents very much.

[Lando Lincoln]

Congrats....we had our twin boys when I was 38. Every phase has been a joy. Like most things in life, you can deal with the demands simply through attitude. All the best!

[dha]

I have to say this to all the wonderful men on this thread... If this world had more men like you we most certainly would have far far far fewer of the problems we have been seeing in the news lately.

God bless you all and you sure gave me some smiles today. Thanks. :)

[WV Mountain Mama]

Don't listen to all the scare stories of not sleeping. I never saw the need to wake hubby in the middle of the night since I was nursing. He is only woken on request due to bad dream or illness, it is amazing what he can sleep through!!! Have fun and take lots of pictures. Everyone takes lots of pictures the first couple of months, but then stop. Don't stop!

Buy lots of night lights. I found them to be much better for me than to have to turn on lights. It even made it easier for me to fall asleep. Oh and, NEVER wake a sleeping baby. :)

Prayers for a healthy baby and delivery.

[redhead]

The handsome and talented Mr. Redhead was 42 when his son was born. My father, on the other hand, was 61 when my little sister was born. (Mom was 43...)

[badpacifist]

Had my first son at 19. He is 27 now. The best part of my age now... ishis child that I now have the time to enjoy and spend lots of time with. While young you don't always know how to smell the roses.

http://www.youtube.com/profile?user=Badpacifist

[TASMANIANRED]

Congratulations...

Best advice I can give. Love your baby's Mother forever.

[confederacy of dunces]

My brother was 42 when my nephew was born in June of 2005.

He is absolutely head-over-heels nuts in love with that kid.

He's never been happier.

Congrats.

[pankot]

My youngest was born when I was 50. No problem if you have a younger wife. And by the way I am a lot better Dad now than when I was 28!

[backhoe]

My Father was 59 when I was born, and he handled it beautifully. Having helped raise a number of siblings after his Dad died no doubt helped, but an older parent can be more unflappable. I always felt kind of sorry for my contemporaries who seemed to have kids for parents, themselves.