[Aliska]

That's why we shouldn't be so judgmental. It can affect people trying to return to and reconcile with God. We don't know whose spirit he will touch. I have one acquaintance who had two abortions. She was raised Catholic; I was not. I have never ever heaped salt in her wounds, but never condoned it either. I have seen her tears. Every day she is sorry about her babies. She has never had a lasting relationship with a man because she has a very serious drinking problem and gravitates sometimes to men who have the same problem, so serious, she is beyond my or any program's reach to help her so far. All I can do is remind her she just has to focus on not drinking today and encourage her to be around people who will not tempt her in that direction. She is an extremely attractive Hispanic woman. Her whole life is ruined, really. She doesn't play on people for sympathy, she needs a lot of healing. Please pray for her. Maybe if she returned to the church of her childhood, she could find peace and the strength to overcome. I believe she told me her Catholic mother paid for one of the abortions and one for her sister, I'm not sure if I got it straight. Catholics have high rates of abortion; part of it is that they are ignorant of Catholic teachings and have not been able to connect with the right people in the church to help them rather than heap coals on their heads. I hope the mother repents, if she is even aware of her part in the sin, before she dies; her health is precarious. Please pray for her, too. She doesn't sound like like a horrible person, just misguided. Sometimes it is even harder for Catholics because the stigma of having an illegitimate child might be worse in the church than in other churches, probably bad in other churches with gossip, etc. We do have a nice program locally for these Catholic girls and their babies, so things are getting better, but I don't know if they dare show their faces at mass with their families and babies. I hope they can just be normal Catholics and families. Oh, and she's here legally as is her family.

This is a beautiful testimony of God's love. Maybe I can share this story with her when the time is right. I don't want to push her or act controlling. I do think the church groups she is involved with are too negative for her, she doesn't understand why God can't instantly heal her. At least I believe He can, but I can't promise her how.

[paulat]

Aliska...we will be happy to talk to her...you must remember, however...that there are jerks on FR who will want to hurt her.

Maybe if you have people send FReepmail messages to you, and you filter out the jerks, it might work.

[samiam1972]

I will add your friend to my prayers. My best friend growing up had an abortion when we were in highschool. I didn't know how to comfort her. I tried taking flowers to her after the procedure but her mom wouldn't let me in to talk to her. She won't talk about it now. She's happily married with 2 beautiful girls. I wish I had known more about abortion then. She is the reason I am pro-life today.

[Salvation]

**Maybe if she returned to the church of her childhood, she could find peace and the strength to overcome. **

Exactly what happened to the girl in this story. I would print off this story if I were you and give it to read. There is hope. She can be forgiven!

[Salvation]

**the mother....just misguid88

The mother can return to the church too. I will pray for both of them.

[Salvation]

**she doesn't understand why God can't instantly heal her.**

God can instantly heal her, if that is His plan. However, like the girl in this story, most healing comes slowly in stages.

You have FReepmail.