I wouldn't ask a question on that site to save my life. ;>) I haven't even registered....just lurked!
LOL! yah, probably quite wise on your part. Climbers are a cliquish bunch, and don't suffer fools well.
In their defense, they are normally pretty good people (the serious ones anyway), and are admirable for the assistance they are always willing to offer. They tend to abundantly observe the need for hospitality in the backwoods. They "get" it.
Unfortunately, you are meeting them under the worst circumstance- They are in deep pain right now. This kind of thing is a shock-wave to their entire community, and they dare not turn away from it either.
They must critique it and dissect it as impersonally as possible for the lessons to be learned. This could have happened to any of them (including me).
-Bruce