[Mo1]

but afterward, it often doesn't take more than 10 toasts to the departed before the arguing commences.

We don't do arguing .. we always tell stories about the person, realtives and have a few laughs remember the fun we all had

[Txsleuth]

In our family, the arguing starts BEFORE the funeral....ugh

[onyx]

My uncles and their in-laws would always end up arguing -- I have seen fights break out. As kids, we always had a good time, I loved hearing the stories, many of which I remember to this day.