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Casual sex is a con: women just aren't like men
Sunday Tines ^ | 14 January 2007 | Dawn Eden

Posted on 01/15/2007 8:04:12 AM PST by shrinkermd

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To: dakine

I was thinking the same thing like "I wonder if they could make a Saturday Night Live" skit out of all this material?


141 posted on 01/15/2007 9:55:05 AM PST by najida (Campers laugh at clowns behind closed doors.)
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To: Campion

Thank you.


142 posted on 01/15/2007 9:57:46 AM PST by the OlLine Rebel (Common sense is an uncommon virtue.)
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To: RobRoy
The Church of Christ thinks it is wrong to have musical instruments in church even though the Bible is VERY silent on the subject.

Musical instruments in church = good

Clapping loudly after a performance in church = bad and tacky

143 posted on 01/15/2007 9:57:48 AM PST by jdm
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To: Campion
Human nature has not.

Ah, but it has! Improvements in transportation, communication, and even in the way we feed ourselves has altered every aspect of human interaction. Just for fun, I grabbed a copy of the 1970's book Future Shock, and highlighted all of the predictions that were spot on, and all of those that have not come to pass, or won't. It is amazing to know how speeding up life has changed us as a species.

The burden of proof is on your side to show that those rules are merely to satisfy the needs of a pre-industrial society, and not to satisfy the deepest needs of human beings, needs that are part of their nature, not part of their technological surroundings.

I offer as proof the fact that even traditional religionists have changed the old rules when they saw fit. Forty-two years ago, people were wondering if someone who married a divorced person (Nelson Rockefeller's wife had been divorced) were fit to be President. Then, sixteen years later, Ronald Reagan's divorce wasn't an issue for even the most religious of conservatives.

In fact, the primary differences in the ten thousand flavors of Christianity are because of which things to throw out, and which ones to leave in, as I see it. Suggest to them that they merge into one faith, and you will be assaulted with doctrinal differences that are based on man-made interpretations of the same book.

144 posted on 01/15/2007 9:58:59 AM PST by hunter112
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To: Gorzaloon

That quote is excellent.

It applies to men, though, too, in the complementary sense. I fear the "memories" part for everyone, good or bad.


145 posted on 01/15/2007 10:00:48 AM PST by the OlLine Rebel (Common sense is an uncommon virtue.)
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To: jdm

Personally I think electric guitars and drumsets shouldn't be in church either.

But that's just me ;)


146 posted on 01/15/2007 10:01:26 AM PST by najida (Campers laugh at clowns behind closed doors.)
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To: jdm

Hey, it's a "clap offering"! ;)


147 posted on 01/15/2007 10:02:39 AM PST by RobRoy (Islam is a greater threat to the world today than Nazism was in 1938.)
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To: fleagle

****I do not believe men and women should live together outside of marriage. I think it's wrong for BOTH men AND women. I do not believe it makes anyone a "whore."****

Of course morality should be applied to both genders.

So what makes someone a whore? To do it for money is a whore, but to do it for nothing isn't?

How convoluted is that!

You are dicing morality into very thin slices.

Laura Schlesinger's remark was "unpaid whore."

If you disagree with her remark -take it up with her.

In my opinion, whether paid or not - it's immoral.


148 posted on 01/15/2007 10:02:41 AM PST by Basheva
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To: SuzyQue
This sounds like a person who has done exactly what God calls us to do: turn away from sin and towards Him. What's your problem with that?

Getting "ewwwww, gross!!!!" about kissing is more for a four year old, than for a grown woman. She did that to push her lifestyle choice, which she wants validation for. Hey, if people here can assert that homosexuals march in gay pride parades to try to get validation for their sexuality, why can't I make the same claim on the born-again virgin writing her book, then giving interviews about it?

Also, you may have missed my earlier comments about now being an atheist, and having formerly entered into a restrictive religion rather than making intelligent choices about my drinking. Just another view from out there. People can choose to debate with me, or ignore me.

149 posted on 01/15/2007 10:03:00 AM PST by hunter112
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To: hunter112

That would include you. ;-)

You're the 1 who had to pontificate on the woman who wrote the article.


150 posted on 01/15/2007 10:03:39 AM PST by the OlLine Rebel (Common sense is an uncommon virtue.)
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To: Mr. Jeeves
She is substituting one form of external validation for another - and it won't solve her problem: why she craves the external validation in the first place.

Thank you for making my point more succinctly than I did!

151 posted on 01/15/2007 10:04:16 AM PST by hunter112
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To: the OlLine Rebel
"Why is it OK to say it 1 way and not the other?"

It's not.

I guess the way you worded it made it sound as if all men are man-whores who will screw anything that moves. I know that's not what you meant.

Also, Billy Crystal did make a good point in "When Harry Met Sally" saying "Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place."

It's generalized, but I take it to mean that women DO like sex, but it's only really good for them in the confines of a relationship with a man they love and are committed to.
152 posted on 01/15/2007 10:04:42 AM PST by RockinRight (To compare Congress to drunken sailors is an insult to drunken sailors. - Ronald W. Reagan)
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To: shrinkermd

Male college students do not want female college students to read this article.


153 posted on 01/15/2007 10:05:42 AM PST by Poser (Willing to fight for oil)
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To: dakine
"Now, listen up. Masturbation is not a sin. In fact, I have plenty more of these fuzzy microphones in my dresser at Saddam's place."


154 posted on 01/15/2007 10:06:18 AM PST by jdm
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To: najida

Ah, for the 7-11 services?


155 posted on 01/15/2007 10:06:48 AM PST by the OlLine Rebel (Common sense is an uncommon virtue.)
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To: Aquinasfan

"Artificial means of birth control are to the human reproductive system what binging-and-purging is to the human digestive system."

A recent study found that the children of women who became pregnant within 1 year of stopping the pill had a 67% greater chance of having allergies. The study wasn't conclusive and recommended a study specfically for this.

Interesting that we have a huge increase in certain diseases at the same time that the pill became popular.


156 posted on 01/15/2007 10:07:51 AM PST by driftdiver
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To: shrinkermd

I read an interesting take on *why* some people are sluts, for purely biological reasons. It is based on the idea that many people will not produce and raise optimal offspring, so sluts act to inhibit their reproduction, like sterile fruit flies.

Acting in a complementary manner to all the other biological and social reproductive processes, that work to produce the best offspring being raised by the best parents, slutty behavior is designed to 'distract' those who are not optimal breeders.

Assume you have 5 males and 5 females. Only three of each are the best breeding pairs. This leaves two couples that need to "get out of the way", as otherwise they might interfere with the breeding pairs.

Infertility isn't enough, as that could still interfere; so what is needed is someone who is willing to engage both of the other sex that shouldn't have offspring.

But it doesn't stop there. Biology dictates a window of time for optimal reproduction. Therefore, a post-menopausal woman is ideal to distract younger, undesirable males away from the better females. An older man, likewise, can distract younger, undesirable females.

This also is a possible explanation for some types of homosexuality. Biology dictates that they shouldn't reproduce.

All told, legitimate biological reasons may explain much of traditional human "bad" behavior.


157 posted on 01/15/2007 10:08:07 AM PST by Popocatapetl
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To: Mr. Jeeves
It teaches you that your sexuality exists simply to serve your need for selfish pleasure...

Good sexuality, like good commerce, requires self interest as well as mutual interest in both parties. It's a blessing to give. It's a blessing to recieve.

I hope God gives this author a mate soon!

158 posted on 01/15/2007 10:08:25 AM PST by Theophilus (Sola Scriptura!)
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To: Campion
It teaches you that your sexuality exists simply to serve your need for selfish pleasure, apart from being any sort of gift to anyone else, most particularly to God or to your (future) spouse.

And I suppose eating all those McDonald's burgers when I was a kid kept me from appreciating fine cooking when I learned how to do it later on in life? My eyes are in my head to enable me to gather knowledge, but if I watch a re-run of "Gilligan's Island", I'm not detracting from that purpose, I'm just engaging in a little chewing gum for my brain.

Any part of our bodies can be used for good or evil purposes, this whole idea that "it all belongs to God", and then the appointment of human beings to decipher what all that means, is what bothers me most about religion.

Learning how to masturbate can get a woman in touch with her sexuality, which will help her husband one day. Believe me, I had to train my last wife to appreciate this aspect of her body, I wish she had done some of this on her own. But, whatever works for you.

159 posted on 01/15/2007 10:10:43 AM PST by hunter112
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To: Stallone
Those Brits are all Bangers and Mash.

And Spotted Dick.

160 posted on 01/15/2007 10:11:33 AM PST by Fierce Allegiance ("Campers laugh at clowns behind closed doors.")
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