Oh my... I guess I'm going to be hit big time, but I am a single woman... divorced after raising our family. I have a wonderful job that requires travel about 50% of the time. I never would have done that with a husband and/or family. So I am enjoying seeing the world!
My marriage was horrible at the end and I was hurt deep to the core. I'm not willing to experience that kind of hurt ever again. I am enjoying my freedom and my life in a way I never thought possible.
I am free to serve the Lord in the way He directs. I am free to enjoy my grandkids to the fullest and can for the first time in my life, enjoy friendships.
I am not ugly or stupid or crude or any of the other negative traits another poster suggested as a reason for not having a husband. I just choose to be single. I was married and would have remained so because I believe that is what you do as directed by God. He divorced me, but I still believe that he was my husband... now he is no longer but that doesn't give me a reason to take another.
The Lord has provided for me in a way that no man could do. Would I have liked to have that perfect marriage? Sure, I love family and my dream was to have the American family.
Fortunately in this day and age, marriage isn't the only way to financial security, there are so many other reasons to be married. I just choose my very peaceful and fulfilled single life.
You have 40 cats?
you sound like a neat person......good luck to you....
Unfortunately, it seems a number of women consider it the easiest way.
Good for you! I'm glad you had the gumption to carve out what sounds to be a full, successful and contented life.
The only thing I might say to you is, turn your fear of the hurt over to God because you just don't know what he might have in store for you. :^)
It is a nice route. It may be what God has in His plans for us. Once I accepted it was ok to be single, He provided me so much peace and security.
I have been divorced 13 years now and every day and every year bring more to my plate than I could have ever dreamed.
There is no doubt that a Godly marriage is the ultimate experience if you are called to that. But, if you aren't, then God does provide.
I've always thought it telling that divorced women re-marry and co-habitate less frequently than divorced men.
Figured if the kids are older or grown, she can get a break from picking up after that other "kid" when she gets home from work.
Men on the other hand miss having someone cleaning up after them, doing the laundry, keeping the fridge stocked with food and having the bills paid so the electricity and phone don't go off!
It's a selfish existence, but I don't feel guilty about it. I spent most of my life putting family first and this is my time. Friends constantly try to match make and sometimes I go along with them, but I honestly have no interest in marrying again. Many of the single men I meet seem needy in a sad way and I don't want that in my life right now.
Women marry men because of who they are and divorce them because they dislike how they changed them.