My twin daughters could not talk at 3. One started talking when she was about 3 1/2, and the other still has speech problems (they are twins).
You would not believe the tantrums we have had to endure because they could not communicate.
One of my 10 year olds still cannot talk well when she is tired at the end of the day or sick. She can still get so frustrated and start screaming.
My daughters are not mentally slow: one is gifted. However the other one does have brain damage that has affected her motor planning (coordination) and muscle strength.
Lucky,
I have already conceded lack of communcations, if your child could not communicate then obviously you are still dealing with issues you can't control. Your child at 3.5 years was behind for talking, I don't see anything in this article that suggests the same was true for this child.
Obviously up until they can communicate you are going to have to deal with outbursts, and there is nothing any parent can do about that.
Once they can communicate however, tantrums should no longer be accepted, there is absolutely no reason at that point for a child to behave that way.
The point I have been trying to articulate is that its not that children cannot get frustrted or grumpy or off schedule etc etc etc... because they can, and do, they are human just like all of us... the point is how they are allowed to deal with that situation. And temper tantrums by most 3 year olds who are indeed able to communicate, is NOT an acceptable behavior.
There is a huge difference between breaking down and crying in frustration and throwing oneself to the floor with arms and legs flailing kicking and screaming.
Read all my posts here, I am not, nor have I never said, children will never act up, and up until they can communicate there is very little any parent can do when a child works themselves up. However once they are mentally able to communicate and express things, tantrums should not be something that should be going on.
I was not here to insult anyones children, I was simply stating that unless a child has mental issues, once they can communicate what is indeed the issue, there is no excuse for "tantrums" to be allowed by parents or for them to be considered "NORMAL".
Lucky,
I have already conceded lack of communcations, if your child could not communicate then obviously you are still dealing with issues you can't control. Your child at 3.5 years was behind for talking, I don't see anything in this article that suggests the same was true for this child.
Obviously up until they can communicate you are going to have to deal with outbursts, and there is nothing any parent can do about that.
Once they can communicate however, tantrums should no longer be accepted, there is absolutely no reason at that point for a child to behave that way.
The point I have been trying to articulate is that its not that children cannot get frustrted or grumpy or off schedule etc etc etc... because they can, and do, they are human just like all of us... the point is how they are allowed to deal with that situation. And temper tantrums by most 3 year olds who are indeed able to communicate, is NOT an acceptable behavior.
There is a huge difference between breaking down and crying in frustration and throwing oneself to the floor with arms and legs flailing kicking and screaming.
Read all my posts here, I am not, nor have I never said, children will never act up, and up until they can communicate there is very little any parent can do when a child works themselves up. However once they are mentally able to communicate and express things, tantrums should not be something that should be going on.
I was not here to insult anyones children, I was simply stating that unless a child has mental issues, once they can communicate what is indeed the issue, there is no excuse for "tantrums" to be allowed by parents or for them to be considered "NORMAL".