"Self-esteem" always comes at the loss of self-respect.
I think having self-respect involves having a conscience- not something I've ever heard much about in discussions of "self-esteem".
pride goes before destruction;
an a haughty spirit before the fall
...just sayin'
There is a big difference between being cocky and being confident; between being comfortable and being driven; between being goal-oriented and pleasure-oriented.
Today's cobblers have decided it is better to bind the feet than to resize the shoe.