SELF-ESTEEM MOVEMENT HAS POISONED A GENERATION

boblonsberry.com ^ | 02/28/07 | Bob Lonsberry

[smith288]

I have noticed my own son suffering from this and he is only 7. We would play a game of basketball in his room (with a really small hoop and ball) and if he fails he would go into a crying tizzy and say that me making his move further back hurts his feelings and he can't make any shots.

I try to tell him that to become more successful at basketball and everything in life is to practice. Practice in failure and practice in success and eventually, failure wont happen as much as success.

At only 7, its a difficult concept for him especially with todays public schools (and our school is a really good public school but is still infected with this self-esteem social engineering issue).

I hope to work with him again tonight and for as long as it takes that failure is a building block to success. You cannot succeed in life without learning how to deal with failures.

Basically, my kid needs to practice failing and how to deal with it. Wish me luck.

[spikeytx86]

Hey I will admit their are a lot of brats in my generation.

But folks from other generations probably should not be sitting so high up on that pedestal. After all, were not the ones who thought our selves to be so important that society must feed us (food stamps), shelter us (public housing), provide our health care (Medicare and Medicaid and schip), and give us cash (tanf).

We are not the ones who say "our kids can go F**k themselves I want my benefits" when they refuse to reform social security and medicare which will leave us with a tax burden similar to that of Sweden.

I admit their are brats amongst my ranks but to the boomer's out their moaning about us brats, ain't that the pot calling the kettle black. And oh yeah, you made us that way!

[Vinnie]

IMHO this is a big reason for the epidemic of shootings also.

In previous years a schoolyard fight resulted with one winning and the other losing, sulking home. A few days later the loser was admitted back into the circle.

Today the loser cannot accept the result because he has been indoctrinated to believe that he has to be the winner. That his stance trumps all.
So he goes home gets a gun and enforces his righful place on top.

[BenLurkin]

The "professional educators" have been damaging this nation for the last forty years.

It is time to fire all the teachers and hire new ones.

Old ones who want to reapply may do so -- but much first verify that they opposed the damaging practices of their colleagues during the decades of decline.

[eyedigress]

Good point.

[spikeytx86]

Yep it's all us snot nosed teenagers and twenty somethings clogging up the courtrooms, certainly not middle aged losers looking for a pay day from McDonald's because golly gee the coffee was hot!!

[GourmetDan]

"Not all narcissists act "French" and run for the hills. Hitler was a narcissist, and probably so was Saddam Hussein."

Wasn't talking about narcissists...

[thesearethetimes...]

"I hope to work with him again tonight and for as long as it takes that failure is a building block to success. You cannot succeed in life without learning how to deal with failures.

Basically, my kid needs to practice failing and how to deal with it. Wish me luck."

You love him, and are aware. You fellas will do just fine :)

tatt

[Mr. Jeeves]

The social and religious values of the United States – and of decent nations all around the world – teach selflessness and service.

And so does every Marxist and tyrant on Earth. Ask the Chinese government about the importance of their subjects practicing selflessness.

Why must Right and Left alike confuse genuine, healthly self-esteem and self-love with unhealthy, ego-based self-indulgence? They aren't the same thing at all, but neither side seems to get it - Lonsberry is as far off-base as the Leftist educators he is criticizing.

[ArrogantBustard]

Orthodox Christians know that self-esteem is a vice.

As do Catholic, although as you note we see it as a species of Pride.

I find it interesting that much evil in modernity is associated with this vice: The self-esteem thing, "Gay Pride", various forms of "Racial" Pride, etc.

[goodwithagun]

Amen!

[syriacus]

The emphasis on group projects in schools prevents kids from learning what their strengths and weaknesses are, too. Kids learn to pick a partner who will do the work for the group.

[dakine]

What you posted is great news....In the 'real' world they are the competition (these narcissists), and all folks on FR have raised competitors...Time to rejoice...!!

[Reeses]

I prefer the word vanity to pride. Maybe pride was a translation error and it should have been vanity. Being proud of doing a job well done is not a sin. Being vain is. Envy is closely coupled with vanity. Envy is the origin of most of the evil in the world. But with pride there is no envy.

[smith288]

Good Self-esteem is understanding you are a worthy person and wont let anyone downsize you as not because you believe in yourself to accomplish the goals you set for yourself.

Kids today dont have good self-esteem. They are self-centered buttholes who expect the world to hand them success without working for it. Goals arent things for them to accomplish, its things that should be granted to them.

[smith288]

You love him, and are aware. You fellas will do just fine :)

I do very much so and thanks for the vote of confidence. :)

[goodwithagun]

I am a teacher. I am up against welfare cases constantly, which means that the students don't want to do any work or behave in class because there are never any consequences. My union is a crock of shi*.

I refuse to teach my history students that the Constitution is a living document, which is in all text books. I also inform them about the Venona Project when I teach them about McCarthyism and the Cold War.

There are many of us who are trying to make a difference in a broken system. Some teachers actually want to educate and not indoctrinate.

[Gritty]

[ichabod1]

Well, they know better, and they know what happens at school is gay. It probably only makes things worse though, because it makes them think they're smarter than their teachers, administrators, coaches, etc. Which they just might be.

[angcat]

When my daughter was 5 she would cry because I beat her at a game (Candyland). I would laugh and tell her I won fair and square! Needless to say the game sat in her closed with dust for years. Anyway she is a good kid (12) and I am grooming her for a future Republican Party position. Right now I am on the Global Warming nonsense and I told her any mention of this in school I want to know right away.