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Rising STD rate sparks online dating sites
CNN ^ | March 1, 2007 | Elizabeth Cohen

Posted on 03/01/2007 7:24:20 AM PST by KantianBurke

When John got divorced after 12 years of marriage, he took a deep breath and launched into the dating scene.

"And wham, with my very first girlfriend, I caught herpes," he says. "You feel betrayed and all of a sudden separated from the rest of the world. I thought at the time that the girl who gave it to me and I were the only people in the world who had it."

But John and his date are far from alone. And the growing number of people in similar situations has created a new industry: Internet dating sites just for people with STDs. From stdmatch.net to datingwithherpes.com, Web sites abound for the infected who want to date the infected.

It's not surprising once you see the numbers. One in four women is infected with genital herpes, and nearly one in five men according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. And a study in this week's Journal of the American Medical Association finds that one in four women has human papillomavirus, which can cause genital warts and cervical cancer.

Once John got over the initial shock of his diagnosis, one of the first things he did was go online.

(Excerpt) Read more at cnn.com ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: dating; std; yuck
Ewww.
1 posted on 03/01/2007 7:24:23 AM PST by KantianBurke
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To: KantianBurke

He should sit in on his 2nd graders health class and learn how to use a condom. /sarc ON


2 posted on 03/01/2007 7:26:44 AM PST by highnoon (Stop global whining)
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To: KantianBurke

John should have stayed married.....


3 posted on 03/01/2007 7:27:18 AM PST by Frank_2001
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To: KantianBurke
>Ewww


4 posted on 03/01/2007 7:29:42 AM PST by theFIRMbss
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To: KantianBurke

Gee, what a charming idea, dating sites for STD riddled adults. How nice.


5 posted on 03/01/2007 7:30:32 AM PST by RexBeach
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To: KantianBurke

Sounds like the site has more value as a "rule out" resource.


6 posted on 03/01/2007 7:32:23 AM PST by NonValueAdded (Prevent Glo-Ball Warming ... turn out the sun when not in use)
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To: KantianBurke
"One in four women is infected with genital herpes"

There are times when my wife drives me nuts and I ponder what life would be like "on the outside". Every time that happens a story like this comes along and slaps me upside the head right when I need it most.
7 posted on 03/01/2007 7:35:03 AM PST by mad puppy (That was one rough Monday)
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To: KantianBurke

This looks like it may be related:

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1793276/posts
Internet ban for sex offenders (NJ)

Emphasis:

>>>It would also require online dating sites to tell New Jersey residents whether they do background checks.

Previous articles that look like a backdoor for:

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1591390/posts
NJ Bill Would Prohibit Anonymous Posts on Forums...

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1591081/posts
The problem of thin-skinned politicos (NJ bill to ban anonymous posting)


http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/1589588/posts
NJ LEGISLATURE - ID of interactive computer services & Internet service


8 posted on 03/01/2007 7:36:16 AM PST by Calpernia (Breederville.com)
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To: KantianBurke
Whew! First glance at the headline screamed to me:

Online Rising STD Rate...

Thought I may be doing something wrong :-)

9 posted on 03/01/2007 7:40:28 AM PST by VeniVidiVici (ĦEl proletariado del mundo, une! - Xuygo Chavez)
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To: RexBeach
Gee, what a charming idea, dating sites for STD riddled adults. How nice.

You'd rather they join the general dating population? These are people who realize that they might have done something stupid (I'm leaving out the innocent spouses who caught something from their cheating marital partner) who want to make sure they don't pass their infection on to someone else.

To me, this is being responsible.

10 posted on 03/01/2007 7:41:01 AM PST by hunter112
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To: KantianBurke
It's not surprising once you see the numbers. One in four women is infected with genital herpes, and nearly one in five men according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

BS
11 posted on 03/01/2007 7:41:16 AM PST by HEY4QDEMS (Sarchasm: The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it.)
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To: KantianBurke

John obviously has a very particular definition of a "date." Maybe he should have tried "dinner and a movie" instead of "screw anything with a pulse."


12 posted on 03/01/2007 7:42:03 AM PST by Tax-chick (Every "choice" has a direct object.)
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To: KantianBurke
There is a basic flaw in the male ego that when a woman consents to sex after one or two dates she has succumbed to his great charm and animal attractiveness. The correct way of thinking is: "If this woman would have sex with me after two dates, she would (and has) had sex with anyone with a pulse."

A danger sign that is to often ignored.
13 posted on 03/01/2007 7:42:44 AM PST by BigBobber
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To: VeniVidiVici
Online Rising STD Rate...

You could be catching something worse than the Molasses Miasma of Niceness through your keyboard ...

14 posted on 03/01/2007 7:43:09 AM PST by Tax-chick (Every "choice" has a direct object.)
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To: hunter112

I know, I know. But it all seems so, ah, dreadful.


15 posted on 03/01/2007 7:43:32 AM PST by RexBeach
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To: KantianBurke

"It's not surprising once you see the numbers. One in four women is infected with genital herpes, and nearly one in five men according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention"

It's a jungle out there!


16 posted on 03/01/2007 7:44:45 AM PST by ryan71 (You can hear it on the coconut telegraph...)
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To: VeniVidiVici
Whew! First glance at the headline screamed to me:

Online Rising STD Rate...

Thought I may be doing something wrong :-)

Do what I do:

Use Saran Wrap on the keyboard.

17 posted on 03/01/2007 7:45:13 AM PST by Gorzaloon (Global Warming: A New Kind Of Scientology for the Rest Of Us.)
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To: Frank_2001

I've read statistics that 2/3 of divorces are instigated and demanded by the wives, so it seems statistically more likely that John had no choice in the matter.


18 posted on 03/01/2007 7:48:16 AM PST by Emmett McCarthy
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To: hunter112
"To me, this is being responsible."

Seems to me that it's a swinger's website disguised as a "responsible" website. Not that I'm being judgemental.

A responsible person who is dating would say at some point early on in the relationship, "Hey, I have herpes."

19 posted on 03/01/2007 7:53:27 AM PST by robertpaulsen
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To: HEY4QDEMS

Let's apply a little logic here:

One in 4 women and one in 5 men have herpes?????????

Based on what??, how many MILLIONS have been tested????

These numbers are ridiculous, kind of like the lie that heterosexuals are JUST as much at risk of catching AIDS, by this time MILLIONS of people were supposed to be dropping like flies.

Can someone tell me the number of HETEROSEXUALS who are not injecting drugs have contracted full blown AIDS, much less the HIV virus?

It turns out a heterosexual male can have unprotected sex with 10 HIV positive women a day and still have a microscopic chance of contracting HIV.


20 posted on 03/01/2007 7:54:46 AM PST by word_warrior_bob (You can now see my amazing doggie and new puppy on my homepage!! Come say hello to Jake & Sonny)
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To: KantianBurke

NASTY!


21 posted on 03/01/2007 7:55:44 AM PST by Fierce Allegiance (RINO = Rudy Is Not Ours! Keep scrubbing, Rudy supporters, the blood won't come off.)
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To: Frank_2001
John should have stayed married.....

Not if he was married to someone like my ex!

22 posted on 03/01/2007 7:56:17 AM PST by Fierce Allegiance (RINO = Rudy Is Not Ours! Keep scrubbing, Rudy supporters, the blood won't come off.)
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To: RexBeach
Gee, what a charming idea, dating sites for STD riddled adults. How nice.

Better they date each other than me.

23 posted on 03/01/2007 8:00:06 AM PST by R. Scott (Humanity i love you because when you're hard up you pawn your Intelligence to buy a drink)
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To: word_warrior_bob
Preaching to the choir.
24 posted on 03/01/2007 8:01:47 AM PST by HEY4QDEMS (Sarchasm: The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it.)
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To: KantianBurke

I've had herpes for 35 years.

If I was single again, I would definitely prefer a partner who was already infected - in fact, if I had a reasonably wide choice of already infected possible new partners I would not consider anyone else.

And I'll bet you can find some very conservative men and woman on such sites, including many who were infected during the course of "monogamous" marriages by cheating partners.


25 posted on 03/01/2007 8:19:35 AM PST by M. Dodge Thomas
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To: KantianBurke
Sweet Lord, how did I ever dance through that minefield when I was single?!? Thank you God for your infinate mercy.
26 posted on 03/01/2007 8:31:27 AM PST by Caipirabob (Communists... Socialists... Democrats...Traitors... Who can tell the difference?)
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To: KantianBurke

crabs-r-us.com


27 posted on 03/01/2007 8:48:04 AM PST by NRA1995 (They should've shredded Saddam Hussein...)
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To: word_warrior_bob

Those numbers are very consistent, and accepted by doctors who deal with it daily, as well as the pharmaceutical companies sales.


28 posted on 03/01/2007 8:56:15 AM PST by AFPhys ((.Praying for President Bush, our troops, their families, and all my American neighbors..))
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To: robertpaulsen
A responsible person who is dating would say at some point early on in the relationship, "Hey, I have herpes."

And what point in a dating relationship is earlier than before two people have even made contact? Signing up on a dating website for people who don't wish to infect others, or even break their hearts by coming clean after there has been some emotional attachment is a kind, decent, responsible thing to do.

This is as close as it comes to wearing a sign around your neck. How this threatens those who don't have STDs, and don't want to get them, is beyond me.

29 posted on 03/01/2007 5:22:57 PM PST by hunter112
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To: hunter112
"How this threatens those who don't have STDs"

Wha?? Where did you come up with that? Did someone say they felt threatened?

"Signing up on a dating website for people who don't wish to infect others"

A dating website? Can you pass on genital herpes by merely dating someone?

Now, I could be wrong, and I know you'll correct me if I am, but it seems to me that those who sign up are essentially saying, "I'm looking for sex, but I want to be responsible about it".

What I called in my post, a swingers website. And, if you think about it, a website of people who have a history of making poor decisions in the past, acting irresponsibly and recklessly.

Why a person would want to choose someone from this pool as a potential life partner is beyond me. They are, of course, free to do so. I'm simply offering my observations.

30 posted on 03/02/2007 6:19:26 AM PST by robertpaulsen
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To: robertpaulsen
Did someone say they felt threatened?

There's clearly been a lot of 'ick' factor on this topic. Most of the comments here are quite negative on the idea. Maybe threatened is a harsh word, but many are clearly bothered by the existance of STD-specific dating sites.

A dating website? Can you pass on genital herpes by merely dating someone?

Maybe in your part of the country, marriages are still arranged by parents, but all the sexual relationships I know of, including the marital ones, are preceded by dating. And the point of this type of website is to AVOID giving something to somebody who doesn't already have it.

"I'm looking for sex, but I want to be responsible about it".

I'm sure there are many who are looking for a sexual relationship only, but there are undoubtably those who are looking for a marital relationship to have sex within, also. They're just trying to find others who already are in the situation they're in. And so what if they're looking for sex only? This is clearly better than just going to a bar and picking someone up, and depending on a thin sheet of rubber to protect that other person.

...a website of people who have a history of making poor decisions in the past, acting irresponsibly and recklessly.

Wow, this is as judgmental as it gets! For a second there, you conjured up the image of Dana Carvey's "Church Lady" character! All it takes is ONE possible poor judgment, and not even that if your cheating spouse brings something home to you. Perhaps you believe that STD's only happen to "bad" people, who "deserve" it.

31 posted on 03/02/2007 5:29:38 PM PST by hunter112
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To: hunter112
"Perhaps you believe that STD's only happen to "bad" people, who "deserve" it."

Bad people? No.

I believe I said, "people who have a history of making poor decisions in the past, acting irresponsibly and recklessly." Generally speaking, of course. I'm sure there are exceptions. That doesn't make them bad.

As to whether or not they "deserve" to get an STD after acting irresponsibly and recklessly, that's not the word I would use. I would simply say they shouldn't be surprised if they do get an STD.

"Wow, this is as judgmental as it gets!"

Ooh, look at you using those big liberal words! Next you'll be demanding an apology and suggesting I go to rehab to get "re-educated".

I call 'em as I see 'em, even if people's feelings get hurt. You're looking at a concentrated pool of people who have acted recklessly and irresponsibly. If I'm looking for a serious relationship, I ain't going there.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. There are exceptions. Fine. But I'm sticking with my assessment.

32 posted on 03/03/2007 5:01:07 AM PST by robertpaulsen
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