Agree -- per my understanding of spooning, it takes two and is consentual. "Lifted my shirt" sounds consentual too. However, maybe she was asleep and dreaming of her boyfriend.
Do 20 year olds use the term "spooning" these days? That was a term my grandmother's generation would use.
You are sounding like a knuckle dragging cave man here. I bet you also believe that women who dress sexy are just begging to be raped.
The comments you posted proves you are crude and a weirdo... probably both.