I am ashamed to say that I am one of those selfish bitches to put it lightly that not only murdered one child but two for selfish meaningless reasons such as not going thur the embarrassment of knowing who the dad is and not wanting to deal with the dad or the family forever and some other reason that are even more ridiculous. I need to right my wrongs and I am willing to go the mile to push for Dad's rights against abortion. I can't bring the children back I can only wait to see them in Heaven and ask for their forgiveness. But until then something needs to be done. I felt I had complete control over the decisions for the babies which is wrong. They could of had loving homes with any of the dad's or even with an adopted family but I didn't want the guilt. This guilt is sooo much worse and rightfully so. It takes three to make a baby 98% God 1% me and 1% the dad so why does the mom assume she has 100%. Unfortunately you will never be able to stop abortion but you can make it more difficult. I never considered how the dad's would feel about an abortion and I never gave them an opportunity. Some how they need to have more rights! I know three other would be dad's that wanted to keep the babies but the mom's decided to have an abortion. I can imagine the pain and anger of not having a say in your own babies life and that is why something needs to be done.This is not fair, a woman does not want to have someone tell her what to do with her body so what makes them think that they have a right to decide what happens to the babies body and part of the dad's body?If there is a law making dad's pay for the babies whether they want them or not, then there needs to be a law making mom's keep the babies the dad's want whether them want them or not what is the difference?I wonder if since they have no control over life that is why males migrate towards death????????????
Welcome to FR (you joined today). I am proud of you for your change of heart. I am sad for what you went through because back in the day when I was young many young women were in your situation: it was supposed to be “normal” to just “sweep it under the rug.” NO ONE talked about it being killing a baby back in the 70s, 80s, etc.
I am in the situation of seeing some couples deciding they would rather have their extra embryos KILLED or given to science experiments rather than have them go to another loving couple. Maybe it’s the same thing you meant with the guilt. They just want the little “problem” to go away and never consider the actual child(ren).
Men really, really need to NOT have sex with anyone unless they are ready to marry them or at least be co-parents with them FOREVER, even if the child ends up across the country or world from them.
And men, don’t trust women’s methods of birth control no matter what. Use your own, no matter what she says she is on! Hormonal stuff is notoriously unreliable, and so are some women at taking them regularly.