[Albion Wilde]

I think the think that matters here is that each child is unique. Each has an individual soul created by God and temporarily entrusted to parents. Not every child can be disciplined the way you describe with your sons — to some children, and often it is the very intelligent children who are conscientious and eager to succeed in fulfilling expectations, verbal abuse can be toxic and devastating.

And this is a little girl we are talking about. At eleven, she has the hormone thing just starting up, and the psychological need to have her femininity affirmed by her father, not reduced to gutter language. She cannot be expected to take this kind of abuse, unless you want her to turn out a leftie.

[hardworking]

You are so right! When my children were little and we would tuck them in, and pray next to their bed, I always said, “Thank you God for loaning (child’s name) to me, and giving me the opportunity to love (child’s name)”. I would have cut off my right arm to have had the same experience as a child. My memory is of parents with angry faces and venemous words - a terrible legacy to give a child.