It is one of those moments that creates profound regret for a parent. I used them to score laugh points for myself. I am ashamed of what I did...and it was no ones fault but my own. They have forgiven me and I have never done it again. But boy does it still hurt me.
The very fact that you realize your children’s hearts had value makes you a great parent. And they know that.
I used humiliation as the ever-present threat to my children when they were adolescents. Not that I would belittle them, but I would threaten to do something nutty in front of their friends. I never had to make good on it, but they knew I would have.