Have not lived here for a full year yet, so my local knowledge is sorely lacking. But, if I hear it right, just labeling someone a "haole" is not considered a slur. Now if you call someone a "f 'n haole", you indeed have raised it to slur, as in "go back to the mainland, you f 'n haole!".
A fine point perhaps, but that seems to be the local understanding of the issue. But what do I know, I'm just a haole..........
I "passed" since my brown skin and hair made me look like a local.
we used to flip tops at school and make fun of haoles.
the NCO beach was cool but going up to the Ke Iki Beach and Kalama Beach you needed to be a local to get the good spots.... and then hang out on the beach near Rocky Point, Tonggs or the PeePee-Leenee (Pipeline) to watch the big boys rip it up and scope out the girls.