I think there is plenty of blame to be spread around. Sure, feminists fought for women’s rights to work, which brought higher divorce rates. To blame them solely for divorce is unfair.
Had all men treated women with the care and respect demonstrated by walking to the outside of the sidewalk and opening doors, divorce would not be nearly as prevalent. It just didn’t happen that way.
My father walked out on my mom and his five children, when I was in middle school. Never paid a dime in child support. Mom worked a full time administrative job, cleaned the offices at night, and cleaned houses on the weekend to keep us from starving. My wife’s father walked out on her mom when she was 2. She ended up in foster care until her mom had a reliable job and could take care of her. Her father never contacted either his children or his wife again.
There is plenty of blame for the male gender in society’s problems. If all men treated their wives with care and respect, feminism would not have taken hold as it did. I have seen plenty of my buddies treat their wives as if they weren’t important, only to have the wife up and leave. You can say she is responsible because she left. It just isn’t very accurate.
Feminism is a bad thing for society. IMO it is worse for women. It has created a society in which the woman is almost expected to work, and where it is difficult to make ends meet without 2 incomes. After a long work day, and coming home to five kids, my wife used to swear that the feminist movement was created and advanced by men.
That's a fact. Most men I know think that women are trying to sponge off the man by wanting to stay at home to keep house and raise children, so........ they demand the women work (to hold up their financial end of things) AND keep the house/raise children. Hmm... sounds like my ex. *chuckle*
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Great post. I say the same thing about feminism as your wife. My Dad was a real man. He wasn’t perfect but he was perfect to me. He was an excellent Dad as my Mom was an excellent Mom. My Mom had to eventually go to work when I was 14 (the baby).
When our youngest entered Kindergarten, well by March of that year, I went back to work full time. Hated it. I had to quit a couple years later to care for my Mom full time before she died this past year. Now I’m back to looking for a full time job. Your last paragraph says what I want to say. My husband makes decent money, but with 4 kids, it’s difficult to make ends meet just on his income.
Boy, is THAT ever true. There has always been a tension between men and women, shown by the lines from a Randy Travis song, "As long as old men sit and talk about the weather. As long as old women sit and talk about old men."
Men and women have always bitched about the other, for whatever reasons, but feminism introduce a real bitterness and anger into the equation. Yes, there have been some men who were real jerks, and truly deserved it when their wives left them and took the kids; I have some family who fit that description. And yes, women did need some help from the government to level the playing field, or at least make the hill a little less steep for women in some fields.
But the feminists ruined it for themselves when they hung their entire reason for being on the right of women to kill their unborn children, at any stage of development for any reason, or NO reason, because motherhood was holding women back. And by bullying lawmakers into taking the father of the baby out of the equation completely, they began the wholesale push to destroy fatherhood altogether. In the minds of the rabid feminists, men are the source of all their problems, and the first men in their lives were their fathers, so naturally, that position needs to be taken down, so young women coming up won't experience the same problems with the 'patriarchy'.