I agree that marriage is not ultimately defined by the state.
However, the argument of gays is that the state discriminates against them if it allows heterosexuals to “marry,” but does not allow them to do so.
I understand their argument. But I do not agree with it as it is a LIE. The STATE can not discriminate aganist them as the STATE can not redefine marriage. It is by definition what it is. A rose is a rose etc.