conversely, if unmarried men were forced to pay for from infancy on up thru college for the kid they helped create, we would have far fewer men shedding their sperm around creating babies.......
Perhaps you haven’t noticed, but that’s how it is now. It’s quite easy to get court ordered child support, the state’s children’s services or welfare system will be happy to help you.
You’d think men would take steps to avoid this, but most don’t, especially the under 25 crowd, or members of the professional criminal underclass.
If we want women to stop having illegitimate children, we need to stop subsidizing them. Plus the whole support enforcement system has it’s own little subset of unintended consequences.
Classic white middle class scenario: College girl gets preggers by a casual boyfriend. Decides to keep baby and finish college rather than put baby up for adoption. Collects various forms of welfare and support from Dad, who is uninterested in forming a relationship with baby, generally paying them to stay away. Grandparents on both sides stay involved in baby’s life.
8 years later, parents have finished college are both gainfully employed and married to others and both have other children. Child support has increased with Daddy’s income, child doesn’t know daddy from a fence post and views her stepfather as her real father.
Birth father, at the urging of his wife, is now seeking full custody so as to end the increasingly painful child support and if they had custody and were getting child support from the birth mom, then the wife could quit her job and stay home with HER children.
Both sets of adults are caught up in the money game and are clueless as to the best interest of the child.
Sadly, if the system hadn’t enabled the mother, the baby would have been adopted either at birth, or by the man her mother is now married to. Instead she is a pawn in a monetary dispute between two sets of stupid greedy adults.
Ultimately, it’s the adults who are at fault, but the system is built to encourage this type of crap, full employemnt for lawyers and the kids pay the price.
I can’t help think it was better when illegitimacy was such a stigma, that most girls said NO and fewer unwanted pregnancies occurred in the first place.
JMO.