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Misandry in the Least Likely of Places
ifeminists.net ^ | August 1, 2007 | Carey Roberts

Posted on 08/01/2007 9:33:38 AM PDT by FreeManDC

Dial up your local Country and Western station and you may soon find your fingers tapping out the beat of Carrie Underwood's latest hit, "Before He Cheats." Underwood suspects her boyfriend is probably cheating on her (in matters of infidelity, I guess "probably" is proof enough).

This how she extracts her revenge:

"I dug my key into the side of his pretty little souped-up four-wheel drive, Carved my name into his leather seats... I took a Louisville slugger to both headlights, slashed a hole in all four tires..."

Trashing your boyfriend's car has little to do with sugar and spice and everything nice. But it's the title -- "Before He Cheats" -- that turns this song into a bitter gender tirade. Just imagine a male star reaching platinum for crooning, "Before She Aborts."

For years women's libbers have reviled misogynist societies that disrespect women. And they have a point. But why haven't we given equal consideration to the other side of the coin -- persons who evince contempt and disdain for men -- and then pretend it's a joke?

The problem of misandry has reached the point of commanding scholarly attention. McGill University professors Paul Nathanson and Katherine Young have published two books that reveal male-bashing has become commonplace.

Their first book, Spreading Misandry: The Teaching of Contempt for Men in Popular Culture, examines books, TV shows, movies, greeting cards, commercials, and even comic strips.

Remember Steven Speilberg's acclaimed movie, The Color Purple? When the movie didn't win an Academy Award, critics cried "racism!" But how many people objected to, or even noticed the fact that all the male characters were depicted as stupid buffoons or evil tyrants?

Thoroughly documented and persuasively argued, Spreading Misandry sardonically concludes that "men are society's official scapegoats and [should be] held responsible for all evil, including that done by the women they have deluded or intimidated."

Last year Nathanson and Young released their second book, Legalizing Misandry: From Public Shame to Systematic Discrimination Against Men. Even bolder than their first treatment, they reveal how ideological feminists capitalize on contempt for men to reshape the law in the areas of employment, marriage, divorce, custody, sexual harassment, violence, and human rights.

It's one thing to peruse a scholarly analysis of gender contempt. It's quite another to experience it up close and personal, like a bare-knuckled fist shoved into the gut.

That happened last week. I came across an article that announced, "The Spirituality of Moms Outpaces that of Dads." Based on research by a California-based new-age outfit called The Barna Group, the article purports to show that compared to women, men are spiritual dwarfs.

That's right, a couple hundred years ago we were debating whether American Indians had souls. Now, it seems the spirituality of men is being called into question.

Over the last decade, we've watched as our churches have fallen captive to female bonding rituals, Aphrodite worship, and revisionist versions of the Ten Commandments that begin, "Adore me, the Mother. Know that I, the Mother, am immanent and transcendent."

I've seen this with my own eyes, and worse.

And no surprise, men are leaving the church in droves. And now along comes the Barna Group that pompously informs us that "Men generally lag behind the spirituality of women." Want proof? Because in a typical week, "mothers are more likely than fathers to attend church."

Girls, how's that for a plan - we'll feminize the church, send the men packing, and then proclaim our moral superiority!

So Gents, switch off the mute button while I indulge in a few moments of unedited indignation. (Ladies, you're welcome to come along for the ride.)

When you were young and a schoolyard bully insulted your courage and strength, did you turn tail and hide behind your teacher's skirts? Presumably you confronted the tormenter and told him to lay off, in no uncertain terms -- right?

Then why are you allowing ideological bullies who spout feminist mantras to kick you around? Why do you shrug your shoulders when a California guru who purports to "facilitate the spiritual transformation of America" does a shame and blame number on you?

So send an e-mail to director George Barna at tgorka@barna.org . Or call him at 805-658-8885. Get it off your chest. Do it today. (Ladies, you're welcome to protest this moral hubris, as well.)

I guarantee you'll recapture some of that warrior spirit. And before long we'll turn around this torrent of misandry.


TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: beforehecheats; careyroberts; countrymusic; domesticviolence; genderwars; misandry
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1 posted on 08/01/2007 9:33:40 AM PDT by FreeManDC
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To: FreeManDC
There is an interesting gulf between the lyrical message of "Jesus Take The Wheel" and "Before He Cheats."
2 posted on 08/01/2007 9:36:20 AM PDT by wideawake
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To: FreeManDC

He’s a little behind the times - “Some Hearts” was released in November 2005, and “Before He Cheats” was released as a single in August 2006, and it’s been on the Billboard Hot 100 chart for nearly a year.


3 posted on 08/01/2007 9:38:01 AM PDT by mvpel (Michael Pelletier)
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To: FreeManDC

Conservative women appreciate the men in their lives. It’s liberal women who are angry and hostile.


4 posted on 08/01/2007 9:40:26 AM PDT by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: FreeManDC

The song in question is about her trashing her cheating boyfriend’s vehicle, not bashing men in general. I agree there’s a lot of misandry in society today, but don’t think that song is a very good example.


5 posted on 08/01/2007 9:42:47 AM PDT by lesser_satan (Fred Thompson '08)
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To: lesser_satan

I like her using a Louisville Slugger instead of thosee commie aluminum bats.


6 posted on 08/01/2007 9:48:19 AM PDT by massgopguy (I owe everything to George Bailey)
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To: FreeManDC

Too funny.

Lack of faithfulness is pretty much a staple in country music. I guess this guy never heard of Loretta Lynn or Patsy Cline? They were singing this stuff before “women’s lib” entered our vocabulary.


7 posted on 08/01/2007 9:48:45 AM PDT by dmz
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To: FreeManDC
“know her? We dated maybe two-three times. She was one of those crazy obsessive types. Jealous when I didn’t even know her. I had to get away from her. She would show up at my work screaming how I was ‘cheating” with some bubble-headed bleach blonde. It has culminated in this - wrecked paint, ruined upholstery and a maniac coming after me. Lucky she doesn’t know my address. I am still looking over my shoulder.”
8 posted on 08/01/2007 9:49:17 AM PDT by Freedom_Fighter_2001
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To: FreeManDC

“Trashing your boyfriend’s car has little to do with sugar and spice and everything nice. But it’s the title — “Before He Cheats” — that turns this song into a bitter gender tirade. Just imagine a male star reaching platinum for crooning, “Before She Aborts.””

Someone needs to listen to the song. She does all this sh** AFTER the dude cheats...the title is part of a longer lyric “next time he’ll think before he cheats.” (also “next time it won’t be on me.”)

Way to take something out of context miss big feminist.


9 posted on 08/01/2007 9:53:19 AM PDT by MIT-Elephant ("Armed with what? Spitballs?")
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To: FreeManDC

Pretty clear the writer hasn’t listened to the song, since he misrepresents the plotline of the song.

There is a ton of misandry, mysogyny and misanthropy in a lot of music these days, but it generally isn’t country music.


10 posted on 08/01/2007 9:57:34 AM PDT by Valpal1 ("I know the fittest have not survived when I watch Congress on CSPAN.")
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To: FreeManDC
So, that's another post-feminist man hating country hit. First it was Independence Day (Martina), then Goodbye Earl (Ditzies), now this. Were they all written by females? Just the other day I noticed that it is men who write heartbreak songs, while females write something like You've got a friend (Carole King), which is a variation on the old breakup line "let's be friends". But then, I could be wrong.
11 posted on 08/01/2007 10:02:33 AM PDT by Revolting cat! (We all need someone we can bleed on...)
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To: lesser_satan

She ONLY SUSPECTS, no proof.

IOW he did not do what the female dog wants and therefore she is ENTITLED to engage in juvenile property damages as appropriate punshiment for making her suspect he was cheating.

Stupid song for stupid women.


12 posted on 08/01/2007 10:04:16 AM PDT by longtermmemmory (VOTE! http://www.senate.gov and http://www.house.gov)
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To: Freedom_Fighter_2001

I think Cletus T. Judd ought to do a send-up of this song from the guy’s perspective - talking about how he was out with his sister and his crazy girlfriend trashed his truck or some such.


13 posted on 08/01/2007 10:07:30 AM PDT by mvpel (Michael Pelletier)
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To: FreeManDC
Loretta would sing something like Don't come home a-drinking, with lovin' on your mind. Then there was a song a decade or two ago about the woman building a bar inside their house, so he would feel at home. Humour, love and a desire to continue and repair relationships. But the three I mention above are misandry, plain and simple!
14 posted on 08/01/2007 10:08:12 AM PDT by Revolting cat! (We all need someone we can bleed on...)
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To: FreeManDC
Dial up your local Country and Western station and you may soon find your fingers tapping out the beat of Carrie Underwood's latest hit, "Before He Cheats." Underwood suspects her boyfriend is probably cheating on her (in matters of infidelity, I guess "probably" is proof enough).

Too bad Carey Roberts doesn't bother to read the lyrics or watch the video.

In the song she is quite sure he is cheating on her. The "before he cheats" is part of the line "Maybe next time he'll think before he cheats."

Songs titles tend to to be short fragments from the lyrics, not a synopsis.

15 posted on 08/01/2007 10:42:40 AM PDT by untrained skeptic
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To: FreeManDC

There was a song a few years ago, called “When I think about cheating”, or something like that. I had a girlfriend back then, and both she and I liked country music. It seemed like every time I turned on the radio station, that song was playing. (No, it wasn’t prescient!)


16 posted on 08/01/2007 10:50:38 AM PDT by Christian4Bush ("Congress shall make no law abridging the freedom of speech." Hold a hearing on that.)
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To: untrained skeptic

In the song, she says “probably” six times. She’s sure he’s cheating, but we the listeners don’t know whether or not he actually is.


17 posted on 08/01/2007 10:52:18 AM PDT by mvpel (Michael Pelletier)
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To: massgopguy

and lets face it....better for some angry woman to beat up a stupid car then do what a lot of men do....beat up and kill women and kill their children as well, just to make a point....


18 posted on 08/01/2007 10:58:16 AM PDT by cherry
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To: FreeManDC

“Misandry”

I always wondered what the opposite of “Misogeny” was.
Not enough to actually look it up, but I did wonder.


19 posted on 08/01/2007 11:26:33 AM PDT by Redbob (WWJBD -"What would Jack Bauer do?")
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To: mvpel
"He’s a little behind the times - “Some Hearts” was released in November 2005..."

I'm not sure that the Carrie Underwood song is the primary subject of this article...

20 posted on 08/01/2007 11:30:06 AM PDT by Redbob (WWJBD -"What would Jack Bauer do?")
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